How do YOU make girls laugh?

forseti_ · 2015-03-31T21:16:38+00:00

You need to project value. If a girl is into you, she will laugh about the dumbest shit you say. There is really no need to be a comedian.

sweatyswag · 2015-03-31T21:43:13+00:00

Know good stories.

Just be relaxed honestly. It all flows.

Went on a date with a girl yesterday, told her a story about my dad and had her crying in laughter.

Try it so that you are also having fun and not forcing the hell out of yourself to make the joke.

MrAnonyMousetheGreat · 2015-04-01T00:49:01+00:00

So for a situational joke/one-liner, your brain just has to make the right connection quickly enough. And THEN you need to relax your filter (basically be OK with who you are and don't worry about people thinking negatively of you, but appreciate how good it feels to get someone to laugh). This reduced filter will have you saying something funny more often quickly enough, but it will also have you missing a little more often too. But if you were comfortable enough with yourself, you'd be OK with that I think.

The following started off as a tangent, but I feel like it needs to be brought up every now and then on this subreddit as a reminder:

Of course if you're a creep, and your mind usually goes down tracks that are just borderline evil and not really funny, you'll probably find yourself striking out way more often than you hit home runs. I'm imagining someone like the Santa-Barbara killer as someone who fits this caveat. It's not my intent dismiss him or someone like him as hopeless. He could have been taught right from wrong and definitely had the capacity and power to care about trying to act morally. So things could have been different for him if he chose to value doing the right/moral thing above all, and they can be different for anybody who finds themselves having a similar mindset as him (being bitter towards women).

As for a funny story, I'll butcher what /u/Charlie_KA from source had to say. Basically, you'd have to work out the rhythm, pace, and length of the funny story. You almost have to make it into a performance where you get your body and energy into the telling of it (basically being animated but not Tom Cruise jumping on the sofa level of animated). I think once you figure it out and you start to get experience, it becomes natural to you. I haven't figured it out, since I haven't had time to make it a focus of my time and effort.

In regards to just being witty in general or at least an alternative to relying on making the right connection at the right time: My own personal observation from watching rappers, insult comics (insult rappers), and comedians (and Winston Churchill) is that they have patterns of thinking and an almost modular structure to their patterns. I don't know if it comes from really, truly analytically breaking down the structure of the joke or insult (and then being able to keep this in their heads and deliver by just plugging and playing ... which I think is really difficult to do - basically, easier said than done - probably needs practice) or if they just naturally/instinctively are able to grasp that pattern and then output a [word for a specific manifestation of that pattern that I'm currently blanking on] of that pattern. It might just be a combination of the two. Maybe there are people that naturally have the right connections in their brain to make the specific pattern finding and recall easier, but maybe they and people who have less natural ability have to practice to increase the strength of these connections. Which would mean, asking the question of how can I be funny is like asking the question how can I be good at math?

nor_iqhwan · 2015-03-31T21:08:36+00:00

By being myself, and I'm very random and spontaneous. The chance of her finding me weird as fuck is much higher than being funny though, but I just don't give a fuck. :D

Konrad25 · 2015-03-31T21:01:39+00:00

Be myself... Usually I would say something dumb, or tease them. They'll get a chuckle either way, good or bad for me.

YamFor · 2015-03-31T23:29:46+00:00

Say the first thing that comes to my head and hope for the best, honestly try it

hardly_incognito · 2015-04-01T06:41:14+00:00

Making a girl laugh boils down to two things: your confidence and your ability to read people.

Confidence applies to the fact that if you don't have the guts to say something, especially if it's funny, then you blew it. I remember the first time in college I finally spoke up and made a joke in class. I half-hesitated, but the teacher happened to hear me. Thinking I was asking a question, he asked what it was I said. I told him, and as I had hoped (but was too afraid to commit too) the class erupted in laughter. I would've never had this opportunity had the teacher not of called on me. With that, if you're talking to a girl, have confidence in yourself if you think of something clever or funny, and when you say it, smile and own it.

To segue into my next point: your ability to read people.

You have to tell where the girl stands with her morals. I remember clearly when I joked with a devote Christian girl in a sexual manner. This obviously offended her. While it may have worked with a more laid back girl, it didn't in her case. Although I was in luck, as this girl did indeed like me a lot, allowing me to switch gears and make her laugh using a different style. I was more cocky with my jokes, saying I'm better than she was at this or that. It created a more playful atmosphere and allowed us to connect much better. Do note, I don't resort to canned lines, but just different ways of being silly that I feel truly reflect who I am as a person.

In the end, I find it best to create humor by using myself as the topic of interest. From funny stories of my own embarassment, to having a silly demeanor (I am very creative in my faces, usually causing people to laugh just by looking at them), and by honestly not giving a fuck. At first I may have seemed offensive, but with time I've been able to learn how to rarely cause offense with other individuals. Now in the worst case scenario, people may not laugh. Big deal.

Plus, if a girl likes you, she's bound to laugh. A date I went on today was filled with laughter. The girl liked me, I owned everything I said and did it with a smile. Emotions are how we men can best communicate with women, and leaving them filled with laughter is a great way to win them over. Be careful though, as balance is key and you don't want to be viewed solely as a comic (unless that's your actual career!).

Good luck, and I hope I've been of some help!

Cheers.

CaseOfInsanity · 2015-04-01T03:17:59+00:00

I'm not good at this. But the few times I managed to do it, are times where I tell my own stories that's fun to talk about

JimmyJimRyan · 2015-04-01T11:44:58+00:00

Why do wolf cubs play fight? My personal theory is that a lot of play is practice for more serious situations that may come up and if you look at a lot of what women find fun it's something a bit like a potentaly more serious situation made safe, a bit like how an inoculation is a bit of a virus made safer. So what I do a lot of the time is sort of role play but it's very very important that it's clear that it's safe so don't say something like "I'm going to rape you, only joking" but you can say to her something like "I think I'm pregnant" and She'll eat it up saying "OH my god what are you going to do?" and just keep going.

Humour though is a test of mental agility and you can't really fake it, you can have a few canned one liners but that will only take you so far and "jokes" are not a replacement for witty banter, they're too one sided and it needs to be play, back and forth and roleplaying silly stuff lets her play.

tails2tails · 2015-04-02T01:37:55+00:00

I'm pretty mean and sarcastic but all with a playful tone and a smile on my face. Basically myself, which is a very weird individual let me tell you.

Bitru · 2015-03-31T20:56:28+00:00

Ok, get ready... "Jokes".

Title	How do YOU make girls laugh?
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Date	March 31, 2015 8:05 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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