How to approach a girl that you work with?

V4refugee · 2015-10-30T20:08:42+00:00

Take it from a guy that just got called out for getting too friendly with a coworker. Whatever you do don't touch her at work and everyone knows exactly what you are doing so keep it professional.

Messisfoot · 2015-10-30T15:06:43+00:00

Work CAN be the best place to pick up. There is so much situational stuff going on, you don't have to think too hard about your opener (Hey! I noticed your monitors are so old. Lol, is it hard to work like that? - no idea what you do, I'm assuming you use computers one way or another in any firm).

There are opinions on both sides; some saying that you shouldn't shit where you eat, other who say its fair game.

I am of the mindset that, you will likely spend 8 hours a day in the office. You are probably going to get close with someone, and becoming personally acquainted with your co-workers can actually be beneficial for productivity.

That being said, having worked in HR and management, you should be aware that just about any aspect of seduction can be misconstrued as sexual harassment

So, be mindful of the environment, FFS don't be a creeper, and start off friendly. Even if it doesn't work, who knows? Maybe she has cute friends after you befriend her (which should be the initial approach at work - unless she's staring at your croch and looking you up and down when you walk by)

stephenh369 · 2015-10-30T14:59:01+00:00

You can go ahead and introduce yourself, talk about your work, your boss etc.

Be careful though, as the saying goes "Don't shit where you eat", basically don't try to get someone whom you will have to work with if things go bad.

I was in a salsa dancing class and decided to pick up one girl in the group. Things got messed up between us, and now it's super awkward for me to go back to the salsa dancing group (one of the teachers is friends with the girl and knows what happened)

Freckled_Boobs · 2015-10-30T17:18:55+00:00

Don't.

Don't get your honey where you get your money.

ChrispyK · 2015-10-30T15:33:27+00:00

If you just got out of a long relationship, don't make your first attempt at dating again a high stakes attempt. Go to some bars/local events/whatever you do, and try to pick up some girls there in a low-stress environment. Either way, you win. You might find an even better girl out in the wild, and if not, you'll build up your confidence to bring your A-game to the girl at work.

GingerSauce · 2015-10-30T18:26:14+00:00

Don't. Take it from a guy that has hooked up with a girl from work. It only leads to awkwardness and soon enough, one of you will have to leave your place of work or deal with avoiding one another for a long time.

Talk to her, sure. Flirt? Okay. But never take it to the next level. Just treat her like another guy and have her introduce you to her friends and then once you/she go for another job, strike.

TheXXL · 2015-10-30T15:16:56+00:00

Fairly self explanatory; just wondering if anyone here has any experiences with this kind of thing they'd like to share?

Normally i try to avoid it, and the few times i did it anyways didn't really make it a good experience to me, one girl tried to avoid me afterwards, didn't really shock me, but was still strange, another was getting too clingy, another turned from being attracted and open, to insulting me etc. Might be my personality that is too forward for a work environment, i don't know.

I'm quite an introvert and don't socialise too much, i have trouble opening conversations with people (sober anyway haha) but i'm fine talking to people after i've passed that barrier.

This is what you shoul work on before you try to seduce a woman that you work with. I am sure you would not like the outcome if anything goes wrong, since you work with her and cannot avoid her always.

The reason I'm asking this is that (anxiety aside) i'm not sure how to approach someone.

Well that is pretty easy once you get over your anxietey. I normally talk to poeple like i know them for years, even though i just met them, starting off with smalltalk and getting deeper if there are interesting things i hear from them.

I've been working in a shop for half a year now and during that period i've kept to myself long enough to isolate myself from co-workers so i don't have any work friends to help introduce us. The person i'm referring to in this case works in a different department from me so i'm not within talking distance often (e.g I'm a tiller and she's on the floor).

Is there any way that you normally meet eachother? maybe when coming to work, or leaving? In my opinion this is the best way to meet her, outside of your job, because it feels less stressful.

She doesn't even appear to have Facebook so even thats not an option (although thats clearly a last resort to talking to people anyway). Any advice is appreciated :)

haha you should not stalk her, that could come off as being creepy. I know its hard to resist... Anyways, you should be aware of the possible implications when you try to seduce her, your best chance i think would be to casually get to know her and see what comes out of it.

Title	How to approach a girl that you work with?
Author	stephenh369
Upvotes	7
Comments	22
Date	October 30, 2015 2:31 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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