Hey guys, I really need some advice. I feel so lost right now and nothing is fixing this feeling. I hope this is not too long of a rant. I apologize in advance, and I apologize for complaining. I promise everything I’m saying here is because it relates to my current situation.

Some background: I’m 19, almost 20, in good shape with good looks. I go to the gym 4 times a week. I have hobbies and I’m good at them, been playing guitar for 13 years. My previous line of work was pretty interesting and “prestigious” I suppose, at least for someone my age.

I was in a LTR for 3 years. We were both virgins and I was even her first kiss. Our sex was amazing, she absolutely loved it and would try to instigate it alllll the time. She was a little below my value but she was conservative when it came to relationships and sex, and that was something that I valued. She would also do sweet things for me all the time (which I thought was a sign that she valued me) The distance between us was a bit far, but she was willing to drive all the way just to see me.

I was and am not a perfect red pill guy, however I did utilize some power dynamics and never allowed her to shit test me. Keep in mind we were both young and were each other’s firsts. She would always talk about other girls (her friends) being slutty, and how upset it made her. She would say stuff like “How could she live with herself”, etc. usually a good sign that a girl at least has some morals.

To make a long story short, she got drunk and sent nudes to a group chat with all the boys on her school soccer team in it. I could not accept this and I had to leave her. She begged and begged and told me all these things like “I’ll never get over you” and “I’d do anything for you”, etc. Needless to say, it was a bit tough even though I knew what I had to do. (I actually made a post about this previously).

Fast forward a week, she sends me some texts saying that shes calmed down and that she understood why it had to happen, that shes ashamed and will never forgive herself, sorry, etc, and we agree to at least keep in contact. That was a mistake on my part. About a week later she ended up getting caught by her parents sneaking out at midnight to go have sex with some guy. At this point I called her out on her bullshit, told her that she was toxic, and all contact was cut.

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So now I’m here. A 3 year relationship is a long time and a ton of investment for someone my age. I have always been a bit mature for my age and have tried to stay away from drama in my high school years. As a result, I do not have many friends at all, and the few I had, I have mostly cut out of my life for being toxic and just not people I want to be around.

I am trying my hardest to focus on self improvement, but I feel extremely isolated. I have, for all intents and purposes, practically no friends. I avoid most social media like the plague as I find it to be a cancer on society, (dont even have snapchat) and because of that, people are not constantly reminded of my existence. Therefore most people forget I exist. Nobody my age goes to my gym, and I just have no real way to meet anyone new. I am starting college classes in a few weeks, and with it ROTC. I am excited to meet new people. However I am literally going insane right now until then. I am trying to read “How to win friends and influence people”, but I can’t stay focused very well with all my current thoughts. In my case, my lack of friends is almost entirely based on circumstance and my refusal to use social media, as I get along with people well, just don’t have any close relationships (I really need some reliable male friends).

I have dreams about the girl betraying me almost every time I go to sleep, and it sucks so bad because I can’t help what I dream about, and I cant just “distract myself” like I attempt to do when I’m awake. Keep in mind this is very fresh and just happened, so I’m just trying to get over it. (Sorry for the sob story, I just need some advice on getting over it)

What upsets me greatly is that I don’t understand how I can trust anyone in the future. I am a traditionalist, and as such, I personally am not interested in sleeping around. I know a lot of people on TRP choose to do it, and that’s fine. For me, it’s not my thing even though I could easily sleep around if I wanted to. I was with a girl since she was 15, took her virginity, was above her league, gave her amazing sex, kept myself fit and improving, and this happened anyway, so I feel like my future chances of finding a girl who is also a traditionalist and has any integrity at all are very improbable.

Now, don’t mistake this for me falling into the trap of “true love” or looking for a girl who is “different from the others”, or any of that bullshit. I know how things work, and if I want to keep someone around who is valuable, I have to be valuable, useful, masculine, and have my shit together. I do, however, want to eventually start a family, and in order to do that, you need to find someone who will not lie, cheat or get bored and look for side dick because you are not perfect or made a mistake. Unfortunately, these days the odds are not looking great. Traditional families are going down in flames. I was raised in one, so perhaps that might explain why that is what my end goal is.

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Hard times create strong men Strong men create good times Good times create weak men Weak men create hard times

It is the cycle of society.

I believe that we are at the point in the cycle where we have weak men who have created bad times, and I am doing everything I can to be strong so that when things finally crumble and burn, I can help rebuild the world to be much better than it is now. But until then, it can be extraordinarily hard to maintain some semblance of sanity.

I try to be the change I want in the world. I try to have integrity, be honest, be loyal, be helpful, learn, and improve. How do I not get taken advantage of while doing this?

Any advice would be massively appreciated, and once again, my apologies for it being so long and for the complaining.

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TL;DR

Tried to do everything right, still got completely betrayed by my first (and only so far) LTR girlfriend. Isolated, no real friends due to circumstance and refusal to use social media. Finding it hard to stay positive in a world that seems to be falling apart in front of me. AskTRP, what can I do?