What's your go too 'routine' after you open in a bar?

essexaspie · 2017-12-05T17:56:15+00:00

This is actually one of them questions that crops up here all the time, but that nobody knows teh answer too

In short, you will be told that what you say doesn' matter. Just ask her name. What she's up too. Find out about her etc.

HOWEVER, If you do that in field, and it goes wrong, and then you write an FR here, you will be told that she walked away because you asked boring questions.

Now you'll be back at square 1 asking what you're supposed to actually say (and nobody will be able to tell you!)! haha - (i've seen this a million times on seddit and it happens because seddit doesn't have any sort of consensus/model that posters agree on, unlike forums that follow a particular teaching such as RSD or myseterymethod etc)

have fun!

stylerTyler · 2017-12-05T20:19:07+00:00

Here is what I do and it gets me nice results: some random opener depending on the situation and my level of drunkness, ask a couple of questions with silence in between to give her chance to ask me anything, tell a few mild jokes about her answers like for example if she says she is a taxi driver so I ask her to give me free rides, leave her and go to my friends, ignore her completely, go back t her some time later with more funny comments, start the kino, leave her, go back some time later, more kino then ask tell her to leave with me.

It’s least effort and lowest investment. Doesn’t always work but I do the same with multiple girls besides I do it for fun so I don’t really care if I go home alone. More times than not, I take a girl home.

gregory2112 · 2017-12-05T20:21:03+00:00

There are actually many answers to this question peppered here & there in seddit as well as on youtube.

In a nutshell, you want your conversation (after your opener) to cause an emotional response in the woman.

There are many, many ways to do this and many types of emotional responses you can trigger (positive, negative, fear, laughter, excitement, etc.) The main point being, If the woman does NOT feel an emotional surge during the interaction, then she will likely get bored.

One example would be to take a woman's words and twist them into something funny/sexy. This causes them to laugh and/or blush which is an emotional response and keeps them interested in furthering the interaction.

Christofart25 · 2017-12-05T17:51:35+00:00

Confidence is key and attitude is everything. Read books "how to be a 3% man". It changed my life and goes into ever part of my life. Be yourself and always take care of yourself because you take care of others.

Cheers

Eskeeetiiit · 2017-12-05T16:46:16+00:00

From what I gather, try to build comfort and get to know her.

ladyboii · 2017-12-05T21:48:48+00:00

Instead of worrying about what you are saying YOU should worry about the energy you are bringing to the interaction. Is it FUN , NONJUDGMENTAL and CONGRUENT or is it too forced boring and dull. At the end of the day what you should be saying is what YOU want to say because it builds your state and emotions first.

AwsmJstn · 2017-12-05T17:11:07+00:00

Just stick your dick in her man. If she's receptive then gets to fuckin. If she's not, then gets to jailin.

For real though go out and try shit yourself. It's the only way you'll find out what works for YOU. There are a million different "techniques" dudes use, you have to just go out there and try anything and see how you do.

An example I can give is my very own ice breaker: "hi". You'll read a million different ways to approach a girl, I like using "hi" and it works for me. Don't over think shit, treat the girl like a human being, and have fun.

ImJustSo · 2017-12-05T17:23:18+00:00

You should go talk to women and find out what works for you.

Is it really going to help for me to tell you that all I have to do to make a woman interested in me is introduce myself?

No, it might not work for you, because your name might not lead to almost every person asking about it.

My name is unusual and stands out like a sore thumb to people's ears.

PNRisTheWayToPlay · 2017-12-05T23:10:14+00:00

hi, i'm "blahblah" and i found you worth talking to.

seriously the same way you introduce yourself in anything.

the1399element · 2017-12-06T02:27:42+00:00

Generally open with "hey, hows your night/day going?"

Then go from there, cold reads are good when you do them from a place that's genuine.

The only time I would go "hey, hows your night?" and then go "you look like a dancer" is if she ACTUALLY looked like a dancer.

Otherwise it's just weird.

Or let's say you open a girl who obviously is not innocent/good girl. You can say

"hey, damn you look like one of the only good girls in here"

She's gonna get the joke, because she knows she's not or she might play with it.

"cold reads" have to make actual sense.

popheadline · 2017-12-05T17:24:35+00:00

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Title	What's your go too 'routine' after you open in a bar?
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