Why hell do men of every race want white girls?!

[–]GarudaRising 6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

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I get it. I really do. But there are 1000's, if not 100's of 1000's of men working on themselves. And many of them are not getting the results they want. You know why? Because no guy is attractive to 100% of women and no guy gets 100% of the women he wants. Most guys probably aren't pulling the numbers that they claim to be on the internet (and frankly, look around. there are a lot of posts by people who haven't had their first girlfriend, etc.). The guys that are pulling high numbers are spending way more time on pulling girls than you are AND they are getting rejected way more times.

Listen. The number one thing you can ever do for yourself is to be honest with yourself. The issue you're having here is not some race bullshit. That came out because you see her going towards some black guy and you're giving yourself an excuse. This attracted to your mom thing is some twisted rationale which completely ignores the fact that a tendency to do anything does not mean you're going to do anything so we're not even going to go into that.

You're frustrated that this girl is getting away from you. That's fine. Recognize the oneitis, pick yourself up, and keep moving. What would you say if she was not getting closer to a "black guy with muscles" but a different white guy?

But the real issue is not the oneitis. I don't know you, but even your post reeks of neediness and a lack of confidence. You may feel like you can hide these from girls, but you can't. It'll come through as not taking initiative, as being wayyy too excited wayyy too early over her (maybe even though you guys are a bad match because you're just glad to be with a girl), and in many other subtle ways. Quit with this bullshit and start working on those. I've found the best way is to sit down and ask yourself why you are experiencing these, and then let the emotion go (e.g. I am needy at times because I feel like if a girl and I don't work out, I may be out of options). And if you really want girls, then go spend more time on it and get rejected way more. I get it. I do, but this is the reality bud. Keep your head up and focus on whatever is important to you.

[–]Snazzy_Serval[S] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I get it. I really do. But there are 1000's, if not 100's of 1000's of men working on themselves. And many of them are not getting the results they want. You know why? Because no guy is attractive to 100% of women and no guy gets 100% of the women he wants.

I read something like the average guy is considered unattractive to 80% of women. So I know how fucked up everything is.

The guys that are pulling high numbers are spending way more time on pulling girls than you are AND they are getting rejected way more times.

That may be true I'm only spending about two hours a week trying to pursue women usually Friday or Saturday night but then it's just constant rejection so I don't have the willpower to fight through it more than that. If I started to have some success I would put more time into it.

Listen. The number one thing you can ever do for yourself is to be honest with yourself. The issue you're having here is not some race bullshit. That came out because you see her going towards some black guy and you're giving yourself an excuse.

No it's not an excuse. I'm angry that she turned me down. And I'm angrier that a man of a different race than us is seeming to be getting closer to her than I ever did. It's activating some racist feelings but only because a woman I'm interested in is involved. If she was getting closer to a white guy I wouldn't be bothered as much.

This attracted to your mom thing is some twisted rationale which completely ignores the fact that a tendency to do anything does not mean you're going to do anything so we're not even going to go into that.

No, that's an actual established thing. Just Google "men are attracted to women who look like their mothers"

That is why the majority of my oneities have been petite white girls with blonde hair and blue eyes. It just so happens that the whole world seems to prefer them which makes it even more harder for me to date them.

I've found the best way is to sit down and ask yourself why you are experiencing these, and then let the emotion go (e.g. I am needy at times because I feel like if a girl and I don't work out, I may be out of options)

I already know what I feel this way. It's because I never get the girl I want despite how much work I have put into myself; I'm never good enough. Yet some other guy is? Why?

I don't know this girl that well, though from our many interactions there is nothing about her that suggests she would be a bad match for me. I'm just exhausted of repeating this cycle and I know that in the near future I'm going to fall for another girl who will turn me down.

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I'm assuming that your post is directed at me as I'm the thread writer.

Black man here... if you're a white male looking for a white woman, your chances of success versus any other race are significantly higher based solely off race.

That is what I'd like to believe. But life has told me that it's not true at least for me, for reasons that you go into. And it's more frustrating for when a woman chooses a man of a different race over me. Realistically though it's just an anger reaction.

If you are having issues connecting with any woman that you're attracted and feel you two match, you may need some physical and/or personality improvements.

I'm 5'5. I did not intend for this thread to be about height but it continues to be relevant. I'm doing everything i possibly can to improve my looks. Admittedly I have a lot of work to do with my personality since I started of very introverted. At 35 I'm now far more sociable than I have ever been, but I still have my quiet side. Game is still lacking.

I don't believe that my way of approaching women is outside of the social norm, thought with the complete lack of success, maybe it is?

sounds race baited.

It's race related frustration. White guy can't get white girls. Sees men of every race trying to (and some succeeding) at getting white girls. Queue feelings of anger and jealousy with a tinge of racism. If I had no issue with getting the girls I want, I wouldn't care who the other girls are dating.

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It has more to do with your height. I feel women in general have been conditioned to want tall men.

It's a relief to read that from you. It's becoming a very common thing for people to deny that height has any impact on a man's physical attractiveness. It's almost like denying that men like boobs.

5'9 is technically average height, though being 5'9 and black is probably enough of a negative combination that it effects things.

Me being 5'5 is absolutely enough of a negative that it cancels out any benefit to being white. Honestly I feel that I would have been better off being 5'5 and Asian or Hispanic. That way I could go after the Asian and Hispanic girls and they wouldn't give a damn about my height as those men are expected to be shorter.

One thing I feel that women love more than physical attributes is someone with active talent. Can you paint, sing, play sports, act, cook well,...etc, very well? Make sure people know... find groups that do these things and let them know you exist.

Unfortunately no. The only things I have talent at are playing video games and that I'm very good with technology. Sadly women don't seem to give a damn about either. I'd need to develop an attractive talent. Good suggestion about joining a group and letting people know what I have that talent. Sure I can learn to play a guitar, but if I only play for girls in my apartment, that actually isn't going to get any girls that I would have already gotten.

Match and see how many people want to date black men... it's pretty disgusting, depressing and demotivating.

Online dating is terrible for all men. Though I can see how much it would hurt to see a woman have some form of "no black men" in her profile. To me even more distressing are the black women who refuse to date black men. I had an extended fling with such a woman a few years ago. I couldn't understand why she still wasn't interested in dating black men who were classy and professional.

Thanks for the words of encouragement. Sounds like you need them too. Good luck.

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Status points and bragging rights.

Thanks for being honest about that. And that's because of Hollywood making the blonde haired blue eye white woman the ultimate female ideal. When in reality, they are just women and who are pickier and more stuck up than most other women of different races because of this.

Also the "ethnic women mostly prefer men of their ethnicity" assumption is more complicated for Asians. A lot of American-born Asian women actually prefer to date out. I'm a lot more aware of this phenomenon because I'm Asian.

You probably see that more than I do since you are part of the Asian-American community. All I can say is my personal experiences where the vast majority of time I see an Asian girl with a guy, that guy is also Asian.

I've also been turned down by multiple Asian (Chinese, Japanese, Korean) women and if I knew them long enough to see them date somebody that guy was always Asian.

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Yes your thread was part of the inspiration. Though I have seen many posts in seduction just like yours. Doing a search for "white girls" is full of Asian and Indian guys asking about how to get white girls. It's annoying and frustrating to see.

However, you drop the ball when you act like this is some kind of conscious decision by us.

Though isn't it?

In your thread you mention that you are after white girls over Asian girls. Is the mass media influence that strong?

It's actually laughably hypocritical when you yourself have hit on so many Asian women--you're probably attracted to Asian women in large part because of the media as well.

In my case no. The Asian women I have pursued were friends and cool girls who happened to be Asian. California is a very multicultural place, especially the cities I have lived in, so I have also pursued girls that were black, Hispanic and Indian simply because they were people I regularly interacted with. I would never move to a certain city because it has a large Asian population.

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Title	Why hell do men of every race want white girls?!
Author	Snazzy_Serval
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Date	July 19, 2017 2:29 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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