How do I keep Plates as plates and from finding out about one another?

C-ingRed · 2018-08-15T11:52:13+00:00

You are a very busy man, your time is valuable. You have no obligation to explain your plans to a plate, so keep it vague or ignore questions completely.

Keep your plates limited to plate time- you shouldn't be going to dinner and snuggling Netflix on the couch with a different girl every night. If you want that then you don't want plates, you want a (shitty) LTR.

The thing with plates finding out is that you shouldn't have ever lied to them to begin with so who cares if they find out? Shrug your shoulders, deal with the shit tests, and keep fucking them. Or let the plates drop, b cause you should have abundance mentality, girls lined up to take her place.

mindplaybyneo · 2018-08-15T12:08:38+00:00

You don’t. They are your plates for a reason, you don’t explain things to them like you are dating them or something. Keep your energy for goals and other things.

abudun79 · 2018-08-15T13:48:53+00:00

Do you keep all your plates in the kitchen separated, so they don't see each other?

You keep them in plate status by NGAF and letting them feel that, but subtly. It is a big difference for a woman to know that you're banging someone else AND to know her personally, so some might break, maybe both involved plates break. Does it matter to you? Really? N-A-P ... Not a plate!

It's not your job to keep them separated, it's your job to fuck them when you feel like to. And if they meet and recognize eahc other as your plates, then it's their duty/chance to prove they're good plates instead of breaking just because they get to know each other.

BuckNekkid18 · 2018-08-15T13:42:01+00:00

I don't do anything besides keeping my mouth shut and keeping it as vague as possible when I get asked about seeing other girls. If a plate finds out about another, it's not my problem. If she doesn't like me seeing other girls she'll call me out and push for exclusivity which normally ends up with me dropping that plate unless I find one with good LTR qualities.

fnordsnord · 2018-08-15T13:14:05+00:00

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walawalawa · 2018-08-15T14:00:22+00:00

Honestly, they know and they don't care. If they cared they wouldn't be plates they'd be your LTR.

The point of spinning plates is not to worry.

I have had up to 5 at one time. When one goes away, another fills in. When I'm free and I call around, first one available gets my attention.

They know. Eventually they leave. The point is to get good with women by being with women.

oytrp · 2018-08-15T14:40:02+00:00

You keep them as plates by rewarding good behavior, i.e. spending time with them and by never conclusively saying I don't want a relationship. Instead you say "lets just keep enjoying each others company and see where this goes."

You shouldn't even really care if they find out about each other. Always be vague about your plans and if they have some inkling you can just say "we're not exclusive".

All plates our bound to break eventually, so don't sweat it and move on to the next one.

Zahlix · 2018-08-15T18:55:08+00:00

I am currently seeing two girls from the same circle, they obviously found out about it within seconds.

My advice: lose lips, sink ships

They sometimes openly joke with me saying stuff like "how was your meet with Helena yesterday?" I just smile and change the subject. They both are good looking girls and most likely have a horde of guys lusting after them, they know how this game works.

DadOnDabs · 2018-08-15T15:04:18+00:00

Should be set in stone from the beginning that you aren't looking for more. She should assume you have other options.

I plainly say, "I want to make sure I'm up front with you because I've had problems from it before, I'm not looking for anything exclusive right now but you're fun to be around."

She'll usually offer to be FWB or the slight chance she says she's not interested. Either way you're not wasting anyone's time.

Abnull · 2018-08-15T19:38:28+00:00

Bitch, who cares. I learnt as a little kid that plates brake. I also learnt that you fucking USE a plate to eat off. Not to form an emotion bond with.

Many plates to choose from at the store, everybody should have one. Nobody cares if you have more than one.

send_it_for_the_boys · 2018-08-15T19:56:59+00:00

Thanks Sherlock

send_it_for_the_boys · 2018-08-15T21:18:43+00:00

Appreciate it!

jebemtvoju · 2018-08-15T20:10:43+00:00

Just don't talk about your sexual life with your plates. If they push, give her a non-answer, e.g. the classic cliche "i don't kiss and tell". If you're not verbose enough to keep dodging her pushy questions then give her an ultimatum. If you run into a plate while you're with another one, just say hi and keep doing what you were doing, or introduce them by name and nothing else, e.g. "This is ashley, this is Jane, say hi" and then you take your plate home because what are you even doing hanging out with her without fucking.

Title	How do I keep Plates as plates and from finding out about one another?
Author	send_it_for_the_boys
Upvotes	9
Comments	17
Date	August 15, 2018 11:20 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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