Infield of me literally chasing down a girl lol let me know what you think

Andreas-Lubitz · 2016-10-24T20:32:26+00:00

You've just did everything against the "game", super apologetic, letting her KNOW you were CHASING her (Low value champ), she didn't even complied when you asked her to sit, she tried to ask you your number as a way to get rid of you (thought ahead), complimenting her too soon too much (she didn't work for it) etc

sameyouell · 2016-10-24T20:44:32+00:00

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BeastAP23 · 2016-10-24T21:46:45+00:00

Not gonna lie, that was really bad.

santereality · 2016-10-24T23:12:22+00:00

The girl literally said "Please don't hurt me," and you wouldn't let her leave.

NoSmd · 2016-10-24T21:04:45+00:00

That's was not great game at all. Okay so some big mistakes for anyone watching this:

You should have put a time restraint when she was initially nervous. I.e I also need to bounce soon but...

The leading her to sit down was not very convincing at all. You needed to build way more rapport to do that or be ridiculously boss, which you weren't. Which resulted in a situation where she was physically and metaphorically looking down on you.

You came across as super needy. Like asking her if she thought you were hot/ interesting, is a big no no and shows low self esteem/ inferior frame. If you were you would know and would have no need to look for reassurance, right? It was pretty much begging at that point. "Please go to my party, I promise I'm awesome", said every guy ever.

You qualify yourself throughout, "I'm awesome", awkward silence "I'm not a Harry Krishna by any means". Your frame is way below hers. You sound super angry when she isn't interested and even blurt out "you don't sound interested at all" and she gets scared. You can tell she is now trying to eject.

After making the lick your face in bed joke, you gave a very insincere laugh, that whole bit was very forced and that would turn most girls off straight away, even if you were close to pulling at that stage. You need to build a lot more comfort and attraction before getting anywhere near that level of talk.

The kiss of the hand at the end showed that you really hadn't read the situation or listened to her at all.

There is absolutely no chance you met this girl again. Props for having the balls to approach her though.

shrfkssm · 2016-10-25T01:31:13+00:00

r/cringe

sorcererbro · 2016-10-24T21:56:36+00:00

A lot went wrong, but I'll focus on the worst. For a sense of scale, what I'm highlighting here is call-the-cops bad.

At 2:05, she noticed your camera crew, two other physically capable men, effectively flanking her. I know you're not going to kidnap her and take her to your rape dungeon, but she doesn't know that. All she knows is there are 3 dudes who could overpower her and stuff her into a van at any moment.

By far the worst thing I saw was how you got up suddenly, face-to-face and much too close to her, all while making a confrontational verbal outburst (2:18). This is why she was terrified. You then make another physical move forward, hugging her. She squeaks "please don't hurt me", and you do back off, but not nearly enough IMO. At this point, it'll be way too much work to get any good outcome, and way too easy to get a negative outcome. Just excuse yourself and leave.

You then go on to give her you phone number. This is just about never a good idea, but it's especially bad here. Was she clutching her phone very tightly by any chance? That phone number will be used exclusively to:

Fill out a police report
Put you on some online creeper registry
Warn other girls about you.

Now, for the actionable suggestions:

Approach with your side facing the girl. This looks non-threatening.
Move more slowly and deliberately. Sudden motions both make you look jumpy and put others on edge.
Know when to walk away. Your time is more valuable being spent on a girl who has already closed her doors.
Only take numbers. Never give them. Girls don't initiate, they won't be calling you.
Only take numbers if she's willing to go somewhere/do something with you right then, but you're too busy. Any other number is just ego fluff. If you need practice talking on the phone, that's all they'll be good for.

Spaceman7Spiff · 2016-10-25T15:26:17+00:00

I don't want to discourage guys from putting themselves out there but this was not a good example of a positive interaction and I hope nobody takes it as such. OP should use this footage as a tool for critique and analysis but never try to sell it as a good approach.

nefosjb · 2016-10-25T01:06:42+00:00

uhh how about fucking creepy ?

OtterAutisticBadger · 2016-10-24T20:18:16+00:00

Its pretty cringy, but yeah, good going.

2016-10-25T16:31:19+00:00

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LittleMissHustle · 2016-10-24T21:20:37+00:00

I wonder if any MAN here paid any attention to what she said?? Some dumb ASS idiot had just already tried to lick her face!! That doesn't register? Welcome to life as a woman just merely trying to walk down the damn street.

You men are clueless. Just clueless.

MobPsycho300 · 2016-10-25T11:21:00+00:00

You did a good job Aaron! Too bad these guys cant see it through the same lens as me and you! #thedominoeffect ;)

Title	Infield of me literally chasing down a girl lol let me know what you think
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Upvotes	17
Comments	48
Date	October 24, 2016 7:31 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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