Like every man on the planet I've been through Lets Just be Friends. I'm happy to be over that kind of crap now - I've turned a friend into a great and sexy relationship, I've realised that one girl is never worth worrying about when there are millions in this town and I've learnt that just like me, girls sometimes like guys that arent good for them. Life is good!

But, I've recently been having a new problem: I meet a girl, we go for a drink, everything is going great, an hour later we're making out and both really into eachother, but shes scared to take it further that night. Even on the next day out - she is grabbing me, putting her legs over mine, biting me and and im doing the same :) by that point I've touched her just about everywhere you can touch a clothed person, we've gone into reasonably deep sexual conversation and we're looking at eachother with some sort of twisted combination of a pair of lovers and the way a stripper eyes up a man. But still, she wont come back to mine, she makes out that I'm going to fuck her and leave. Worst part is, with the latest girl I'm not going to leave! It takes maybe 3 - 6 meet ups to end up in bed with the girl. I just feel kind of insulted by girls who will fuck some random guy one night but won't sleep with someone they really like unless they wait a week or more.

I've spoken to a couple of girl friends about this and they've not really revealed anything useful. "Good girl! shes making you wait!" was one answer.

This has happend with 3 out of 4 girls in the last 2 months. To make it weirder, I know for a fact that one of these girls is definately not adverse to getting fucked off her head and fucking random guys but she's making out that shes a nice girl who waits. I've even stayed over with one girl and did nothing but make out, I would have been happy spending the night going down on her and do nothing else but she just wouldn't budge on this. Meanwhile the 4th girl just invited me round after a couple of hours just sitting in separate seats in a pub barely touching (damn that was some bad seating).

Any thoughts? My initial ideas are:

  • Its a numbers game, some girls just make a thing out of it, others don't, find the ones who don't.
  • She really likes me, she's thinking OMG what a catch I better not fuck this up and sleep with him (my ego inflates about 3 times with that thought but wow what messed up logic)
  • I'm doing something wrong along the chain from bar to my place

Girls read this bit:

Sleep with a guy as soon as you meet him, or, sleep with a guy after 2 weeks. Either way if he likes you he's going to stay, if he's not attracted, he's going to leave. Nothing about his attraction will change in those two weeks - if anything its worse: He will almost certainly be fucking someone else, and his respect for you will be on the lines of: "I bet she's gone home with a random guy from a club at some point, but she wont sleep with me yet?". It actually really insults us when a girl will sleep with another guy because its a meaningless fling but will make us wait because its 'special'. Thats bullshit.

Girls you should understand that guys get jealous of meaningless sex because we all want to be that dirty meaningless hot sex you had with some hot guy. We also want to be that one night stand of passion that leads to a great relationship. So to not sleep with a guy because you want him to respect you is only going to work if he is absolutely 100% sure you've never had a one night stand (and we're almost never sure). I don't think badly of girls who've slept around, as long as you're sensible and safe we will still respect you! Your logic is all the wrong way around and you're gonna lose guys that way.