I've been seeing a girl that I met in a bar. She's really shy and introverted, almost self deprecating and it's almost impossible to read her because of this. When I approached her in the bar, it was more to get experience under my belt than actually get the girl, she just didn't seem to be interested in being approached. I got a good reaction and we started talking on the phone and then dating.

Whenever we go out, we have a really good time, we laugh and enjoy ourselves, make out, role play getting married and the such.

However the next day she is apathetic and aloof. I think we are progressing after a really fun night, and she seems to go back two steps after every night we see each other and becomes more aloof.

You can tell she's losing attraction and I'm not really sure as to why.

Well I decided to kinda chill out and stop calling her (I was getting pretty desperate to be with her and didn't like who I was becoming) and now it's been three weeks and we haven't talked. I pretty much chalked this up to me being too needy or try hard or oneitis. What's funny is that I am usually pretty good at pickup, but hey, that's life and I hopefully I know what I did wrong and I'll try not to make the same mistakes in the future.

The problem is: my friend, who is really great with women as well, met a girl of the same nature and the same exact thing is happening to him. I didn't know what to tell him because I had just gone through the same experience and I'm not too sure what I did wrong. So here I am on Seddit :)

With these types of girls is the game different?

Thanks!