Too bad coffee is for closers...

Mouthpiece · 2010-10-21T11:56:27+00:00

You seem to have forgotten the parts between opening and closing—namely, attracting, escalating, kino, etc.

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nuckingFutz · 2010-10-21T10:28:06+00:00

You went out and had a good time, practiced your skillset, got a great reaction, and didn't find any of them attractive enough to put in the effort to take home.

I don't see the problem. It's obvious that you're able to get laid any time you want. You chose not to get laid that night - it didn't seem worth it.

If you're having a crisis of faith about this, maybe, just maybe, you're learning that there really is enough pussy to go around, and that sometimes it's not the only thing in life worth pursuing or enjoying.

I'm glad you had a good time.

(If I'm wrong about the above, pardon me - if you have an actual sticking point where you felt afraid or anxious, please share in more detail)

modernsavage · 2010-10-21T18:04:44+00:00

There's a difference between being a social and friendly guy and a guy who is seductive.

You got the approach and conversational stuff down fine, but you need to escalate, throw in a Statement of Intent, increase kino, move conversation towards sexual topics, isolate, go for the kiss.

Right now you're playing it safe, it's time to man-up and take some risks. As Style infamously said:

"To get a woman, you have to be willing to risk losing her."

cheddarchexmix · 2010-10-21T18:45:16+00:00

If you think this is a problem, then you just need to practice closing. Every time you finish a conversation with a woman in a pickup setting, ask for her number, even if you don't like her at all. That should get you over the hump. I used to have a lot of anxiety about closing, now it's probably the easiest part of pickup for me because if you read the situation right, you should have near 100% success in closes. Can't remember the last time I was negged when asking for a number or to take a girl home, it was a long time ago.

MrRisky · 2010-10-21T19:00:02+00:00

So wait, no number close either?

Next time, if you're really not feeling it, throw caution to the wind and invite both of them home with you. Sure, it's high risk, but if you're not going to make a move otherwise, it's really no loss.

Zeratul9856 · 2010-10-22T02:35:06+00:00

Sweet! You go to Urbana? I am transferring there soon, you could by my wingman/guideperson and I could actually meet a redditor in real life as well as having an older experienced mentor on game and such.

psykocrime · 2010-10-21T17:23:16+00:00

ABC - Always Be Closing!

Title	Too bad coffee is for closers...
Author	this1
Upvotes	3
Comments	17
Date	October 21, 2010 8:25 AM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/dua08/too_bad_coffee_is_for_closers/
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