Invited a sub-par looking girl (a 5.5-6) out for drinks for my personal development (in progress)

Brookie201 · 2010-11-15T19:08:25+00:00

Unfortunately, especially since she's a student, you do pay.

If you have two activities lined up, (e.g. dinner & bowling), then you can slyly suggest that you get dinner, and she get the activity afterwards (provided dinner is more expensive)... but in all honesty, I don't know how to do it, and I personally just wouldn't.

uchihavino · 2010-11-15T19:53:54+00:00

I'd just avoid doing activities that you pay for. Walks, sightseeing, etc. are usually free. Food though, thats another story. The way I do it is saying its not a date with the invite, then as an IOD later. You can still escalate, but when the check comes just don't make a big deal about it. Even tease her. Just don't go overboard on it.

intjpua · 2010-11-15T20:03:51+00:00

Don't sweat paying on dates. It's not a problem.

But, you should definitely follow uchihavino's advice. Doing cheap or free stuff is better than expensive stuff. Expensive dates are try-hard, and often aren't amenable to actually building a connection with the girl. I like to go for drinks, and then a walk around downtown.

If you're having drinks, you can say, "I'll get the first round." which sets up a back and forth situation pretty easily. But, again, I don't sweat it. Paying is no big deal and won't hurt your lay rate, if you don't make a production out of paying.

PhiLLyinDaLLaS · 2010-11-15T21:31:31+00:00

Am I the only one who finds it odd (I.e., never does it) to pay for a girl on a date?

2010-11-15T21:53:15+00:00

My practice date will actually be taking place tomorrow. However, If I resolve to pay for her (now that I think about it, investing a petty amount is not such a horrible thing after all), the date is meaningless as she is not my type, and I would potentially mislead her.

squigs · 2010-11-15T22:01:36+00:00

If it's a date I'll usually buy the first drink. If you go for a second suggest she pays for it. "Another drink?", "Yes", "Great. I'll have a...". There's no reason for her to object. If she says you should pay because you earn more, then is she only there to get a free drink? Is it really a cultural norm? What is this? the 1950's? If she objects those are your arguments. If you're worried that she might take offence and leave, do you really want to go out with someone who's no longer interested if the free food and drink dry up?

End of the meal "so, 50/50 split?" and avoid anywhere expensive. Actually a lot of girls will offer first, but maybe that's a British thing.

cheddarchexmix · 2010-11-15T22:22:25+00:00

While I don't condone dating girls "just for practice", I just wrote up my tips for splitting the bill which you may find helpful.

SubGothius · 2010-11-16T01:50:34+00:00

Rather than just paying for everything or fussing over splitting each bill, I make a sort of tit-for-tat game about who "gets to" treat the other at each venue or round.

Don't start at a sit-down restaurant where the server takes your order at your table; go for a cafe, fast-casual eatery or bar, where you order and pay at a counter upfront. Pick up the first tab yourself by going in front and ordering first, then turning to ask her what she wants, and pay for both as if there was no question in your mind you'd be picking up the tab; her reaction should tell you whether she felt entitled to that vs. a bit uncertain, and in the latter case you can "reassure" her that she can just get you back some other time.

Then you get to see if she picks up the next round, or picks up the movie tickets after you paid for dinner, etc. For me in subsequent outings, this generally turns into a sort of sly game about to who can get in front and order first, or who can nab the check once the server sets it down. Treat it like you've put one over on her every time you rob her of the opportunity to be generous. If she's of more modest means, she may wind up picking up the smaller checks, but it's not a dollars'n'cents equivalence you're going for here, just a sense that she's making a good-faith effort to return favors and keep the messy business of paying for stuff together as streamlined as possible.

yokhai · 2010-11-15T20:27:44+00:00

you ask, you pay

Title	Invited a sub-par looking girl (a 5.5-6) out for drinks for my personal development (in progress)
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Date	November 15, 2010 6:46 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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