"we can never do that again" how to keep her coming back.

blackdevildisco · 2011-01-15T21:24:03+00:00

OK man, I'm all over this shit.

I'm guessing you're not Christian, right? So here's a take from an ex-Christian dude who got mad laid with Christian girls at a Christian college back in the day. (At least, "mad laid" by that school's standards, more like average by secular school standards.)

Here's what I'm guessing she's feeling. One, she's a normal, red-blooded female, and you've been bringing your A-1 game, so she wanted to jump your bones. Two, she was brought up to believe this is bad, bad, very bad, because the two of you aren't married. This is her basic existential conflict when the two of you are dry humping or whatever.

And surprise surprise, for a lot of girls (and guys), biology eventually overpowers childhood programming. So she sticks your wang in, and felt "OMIGOD THIS IS AWESOME," and then felt "OMIGOD I'M A BAD PERSON" and pulled it out. And she's probably been reliving both of those emotions ever since.

So that's the lay of the land. What is your job here?

Your job is to play it cool, like a little Fonzie, exactly like you're planning. Keep up the charm, but don't try so hard to get in her pants that you piss off her religious side – just be cool and attractive so that she still wants to fuck you, and eventually her I-wanna-fuck-him side will dismantle her religious sexual repression side for you. You don't so much need to seduce her – you've already done that – as give her natural impulses time to work themselves out.

I mean, if she ever says "we shouldn't have sex tonight," for example, the single most powerful thing you can do will be to just fucking roll around making out the whole time. It'll show you're in control of yourself, and meanwhile she'll be going crazy trying to resist playing hide-the-salami again.

I think "now we can't be friends. I'm gonna have to be mean to you" is her confused way of expressing the fact that she feels guilty about having sex, and since you're the cause of her stumbling, she's externalizing some of that negativity onto you. Don't take it too seriously.

But it sounds like you're golden. If she was more repressed, she wouldn't say "I'm gonna have to be mean to you," she would be crying and yelling at you.

Edit: Don't take any of this too literally – at some point you'll need to switch back to normal, carpe-diem pickup mode, and you'll have to be the judge of when.

unsexyMF · 2011-01-15T19:06:04+00:00

Sorry if i'm new here and don't play by some of the rules.

Many of these rules were made to be broken. You'll find that you'll be able to break more rules and still get success in the future.

coolNwhite · 2011-01-15T18:29:44+00:00

shes playing with you. play back =)

Crisp13 · 2011-01-15T20:34:36+00:00

i'll be quiet honest man, you have all the pieces. remember, you fuck tons of chics. you just keep acting the way you do. its only when you're in a relationship that this stops in a sense.

frogma · 2011-01-15T22:36:17+00:00

My usual opinion on statements like those is that they don't mean anything at all. She wants more.

Mouthpiece · 2011-01-15T18:33:16+00:00

Easily a HB9, depending on what you guys find attractive.

Sounds like a 7 to me ;)

Just keep disqualifying yourself. Do the same thing she's doing.

Box-Monkey · 2011-01-15T20:52:37+00:00

I hold that most people who are devoutly religious, or anyone who cannot do something simply because it's taboo, usually has some sort of fantasy about violating those rules. To me, she seems to be getting off to the idea of being a "bad girl" with the comment of "being so bad". I'm not sure how you could've stopped her from withdrawing sex, or whatnot, but I'd've suggested reinitiating and taking the lead.

You said you didnt' pressure her, but I read that as you were relatively passive and letting her take the lead so that you didnt' feel like you wre forcing her to do anything. It's better to ask forgiveness than permission in these circumstances.. though don't take that advice too far, obviously.

My first response to her saying she'll be mean to you, you could say "ooooh, how mean? Maybe I'll have to punish you" or something and make it into something sexual. Or you could say "Good, now I don't have to hold back to you!" or something like that. Or you could say you like when a girl shows some back bone.

2011-01-16T19:27:55+00:00

WTF is this? You fucked her already, you can do whatever you want now including fuck her again. This was a joke right?

ztinad · 2011-04-05T06:47:27+00:00

I had a one night stand with a close female friend & co worker. We have known each other for a long time. I have wanted her for as long. I had been coming on to her for a long time. Once I finally made my move 4 hrs later she called me and said.."Wake up! I'm coming to fuck you!' she got to my house and we fucked. At work that day she was totally up for a second get together. Next day she was off and I didn't see her. Second day she was back at work she told me she has too much stress in her life and felt like a disgusting pig and that she didn't think that "it" was going to happen again. She felt that she made a terrible mistake. I told her that she made no mistake-that I was someone who cared about her and could keep my mouth shut. She said she understood my point but that she needed me to understand her feelings. My question is ...how can i get her back into my bed?

Title	"we can never do that again" how to keep her coming back.
Author	Stroppy25
Upvotes	12
Comments	18
Date	January 15, 2011 6:07 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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