[FR] text blowout.

johnny878 · 2011-08-18T19:17:14+00:00

over texted, needy, and tried to be too cute.

if you just keep the convos short and for a purpose rather than bs small talk about movie trailers, would avoid all these problems.

cocomeco · 2011-08-18T19:31:01+00:00

You seem pretty self-aware in regards to mistakes made along the way. Then again, hindsight is 20/20. Next time, just try and realize the error before you hit that "send" button.

I have a student that's also a bit trigger-happy when it comes to texting and chatting, and this is the gist of what I told him:

Take a five minute break before you hit "send." I don't care if you take a piss/shower/dump or make/eat a sandwich. If you come up with a text, feel free to type it, but step away from your device for at least five minutes before you send it. The world's not going to end if there is an extra five minutes (or more) between texts. You're a busy man. She'll understand. Besides, it's important to create desirability. Maybe she'll send an escalation text if you're silent for long enough.

Anyone else want to comment on this (arbitrary) five-minute rule for texting?

christopherwrong · 2011-08-18T19:35:11+00:00

So I'm no expert at all haha, but if you're looking for any feedback I might as well throw in my thoughts.

Personally I feel like if a text goes unanswered there should be a good 4+ hour waiting period before the next one. People get busy and don't look at their phone for a couple hours, and seeing two texts at once when they pick up their phone can come across badly even if they are interested. If they saw the first text and didn't respond, then then you should also wait because otherwise it seems desperate.

I think the main thing though is that texting should be held to a minimum until you've hung out again. Its great for making plans and quick little "hey doin anything fun tonight?" things, but its not good for trying to get to know someone. To actually show interest or connect in any way you have to be with her in person. Trying to hold a conversation via text with someone you've hung out with once is just a bad idea. Even if she's interested, it seems like you're tooo interested. You already made plans to hang out later, so just wait to chat with her until then. Then once she knows you better, you can text more about day to day activities and it will come off much better.

henergizer · 2011-08-18T22:02:25+00:00

Too much dilly dallying, when I'm texting a girl I make sure there's only so much bullshit before concrete plans are made. You need to make concrete plans. She plays video games? Tell her you're coming over to game with her. Also keep up with her pace. If she's taking 10 minutes to text you back, you'd damn well better wait at least 10 minutes to text her back. Don't ping her twice in a row as well, that's a major turn off. Worried you're going to come off as needy with a girl? Go out and meet more girls.

movenomore · 2011-08-19T02:34:36+00:00

A good rule of thumb I go by when text gaming: ALWAYS make sure you elicit some type of emotional response, something you know will change her mood when she reads it. (This way she has a feeling to associate you with.)

Techniques to do this: Banter, nicknames, roleplaying

Make your texts count. Cut out the small talk, be creative and in command (use less question marks).

With girls you haven't built a solid rapport with, stay away from :P or ;). The reason is that these emoticons are fairly intimidating. While you can get away with saying aggressive things IRL because you have eye contact along with body language to present yourself with, it is very easy for the girl to be repulsed if what youre texting her doesn't align with the image she has of you (from IRL meeting).

Use :) Be stingy about the usage of smiley faces, if you use them too often, it can get to the point where they seem fake.

It is also more attractive not to answer right away (don't apologize for responding late). It gives her the image of you waiting at your desk for her response, definite vibe killer.

The learning curve for text gaming is quite small actually, there are only a few things you have to mind, and you have all the time in the world to think of more appropriate responses.

Her: Holy crap it's pouring. I'm soaked. 9:23 PM (could have made a joke, decided not to)

Go for it next time.

testmypatience · 2011-08-19T06:33:52+00:00

Please crosspost to /r/texttranscripts

ge99 · 2011-08-18T23:33:18+00:00

I think that unless she engages, you should only text with plans.

Even then I'd probably try and escalate sextually or turn the attention to making plans and avoid random bs chatter as much as possible.

I think I did the same thing with FR-1 ( still need to post ) and fucked it up.

Title	[FR] text blowout.
Author	KDallas_Multipass
Upvotes	3
Comments	14
Date	August 18, 2011 7:00 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/jn1a0/fr_text_blowout/
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