How do you call a woman out on her shit but not sound butt hurt?

lietruth · 2018-09-05T17:35:23+00:00

Calling her behaviour out will actually reward her bad behaviour because you're rewarding her with attention to the behaviour you don't want.

You see, women get rewarded by attention. Simple rule: Reward (read: give attention) to the behaviors you want. Punish (read: ignore) the behaviors you don't want. Psychological term is called Negative Punishment if you want to read up on it. Calling her out will produce the opposite effect you're after. Despite that feeling somewhat un-intuitive to what you should do.

CainPrice · 2018-09-05T17:14:25+00:00

Don't be angry or annoyed. Be amused. It's funny when women do the shit that women do.

And when you're an awesome dude that can attract other women pretty easily, it really is amusing when women do what they do. Because it doesn't matter that much. There are plenty of other women if shit goes south with this one woman who's being annoying, so you can respond to this one woman with amusement instead of annoyance.

Acting annoyed, irritated, angry, and butt-hurt is a sign of scarcity. It outs you as a loser who doesn't have other options. When your one source of sex is being annoying, you get annoyed. When one out of the 6-10 women you're fucking acts annoying, you're amused instead.

[deleted] · 2018-09-05T17:39:30+00:00

You do not argue with a woman. Just don't. You will always lose. Best is just ignore. Being ignored is worst thing that can happen to a woman.

CalvinRichland · 2018-09-05T17:15:05+00:00

"This is unacceptable, this isnt an argument or conversation, and i dont want an apology. I am simply putting you on notice that i wont tolerate that shit."

chachaChad · 2018-09-05T19:28:00+00:00

"Oh, so now we're throwing things?" Smile...

oytrp · 2018-09-05T17:16:35+00:00

It's all in how you deliver the message.

Calmly looking at her and saying "you're being rude". Is better than whining "why are you being so rude to me".

The real trick is after you call them out, they will often want to engage in an argument. Don't DEER.

abudun79 · 2018-09-05T17:18:08+00:00

Be neutral, serious, say what it is and that's it. Don't bitch afterwards, don't be influenced by it, cancel plans or something. Looks and posture and silence work better than words, if she speaks up afterwards. And under no circumstances enter any discussion (aka her frame).

Peter_B_Long · 2018-09-05T21:43:59+00:00

An important aspect of this is to actually not be butthurt. It's near impossible to try to portray yourself as something false if you're feeling a different way mentally. This is why actors "get in character". Public speakers have a green room where they "get in the zone".

How you feel inside is what you want to output to the outside.

sourmonkeytroll · 2018-09-05T19:36:51+00:00

Don’t call out behavior. Tease them instead.

IronboundAbyss · 2018-09-05T21:09:59+00:00

"Do you need a time-out?" Said with a smirk

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-09-05T23:49:47+00:00

Treat her like a bratty kid sister.

Title	How do you call a woman out on her shit but not sound butt hurt?
Author	DarkSkinKakarot_
Upvotes	7
Comments	15
Date	September 5, 2018 5:05 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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