The hardest thing I've ever had to do

eurotrashdj · 2011-09-26T06:11:02+00:00

hit the gym

redditor3000 · 2011-09-26T05:35:07+00:00

i feel your hurt bro. I broke up with my first Long term Gf a few months ago an it still hurts. Thing that i find works the most? Exercise. it releases endorphins and all that crap which literally make you feel good. But i also just find it really satisfying running myself into the ground or having a huge weights session where i push myself to failure (the point where you literally can't lift anymore). Working out also tends to increase your confidence in yourself which will help you when you're on the prowl again =]. In the long-term though mate, only time will heal your wounds, but you can count on the fact that it WILL heal those wounds. chin up broseph

PirateBushy · 2011-09-26T01:09:56+00:00

Things are always easier to deal with if you have people around you. I recently got out of an LTR and started living on my own, and sometimes I'll just go to the grocery store and pick up a small snack, even if I'm not hungry—this gets me out and talking to people. Usually I feel a lot better after merely interacting with someone else.

And the most important thing to remember is: no matter how you may feel, you do NOT need a woman in your life to be happy.

2011-09-26T20:45:23+00:00

How do you guys deal with breakups?

Grow as a person.

Breakups, in some ways, are one of the great things that can happen to us. Aside from the fact that they teach us to deal with pain and loss (two inevitable parts of life), they create a window of time where we are "awake".

Most people go through their lives as if sleepwalking through a waking dream. We take things for granted, we sleep through opportunities, we avoid discomfort, and we live as if watching a film in 3rd person. Breakups shake us out of that stupor, even if only for a few weeks, and can provide an opportunity to take a clear look at our lives and see the ways we can improve ourselves.

atrain714 · 2011-09-26T18:02:11+00:00

This quote is for you: “Because she has been a major part of your life, of course you’ll miss her; it’s perfectly normal. It’s like getting a tooth pulled out; after the dentists pulls it out, you’re relieved. But how many times does your tongue run itself over the spot where the tooth once was? Probably a hundred times a day. Just because it was hurting you doesn’t mean you don’t notice it. It leaves a gap, and sometimes you see yourself missing it terribly. It’s going to take a while, but it takes time. Should you have kept the tooth? No, because it was causing you pain. Pulling the tooth was the right decision, but it’s going to hurt.”

hefnetefne · 2011-09-26T00:58:47+00:00

Engage other women from a one-night-stand mentality.

Seriously, if I stay home and try to comfort myself, I fall down the well into depression. The only way out for me is to engage people directly.

theubernoob · 2011-09-26T01:15:54+00:00

If she really meant something to you? Time. Just try to keep busy and keep your mind off of it.

mystifiedglobe · 2011-09-28T19:32:56+00:00

The best way to get over the last one is under the next one.

redditor3000 · 2011-09-26T03:05:18+00:00

Whenever a guy has little experience with women they get too emotionally wrapped up with one. Break ups are always extremely painful, we take disrespect and all kinds of shit because we are too afraid to break up, etc. We have all been there. The key besides experience is a little bit of insight. The biggest problem is usually that we had/have a lack of the abundance mentality. There are billions of women in this world, and we get too invested in just one! Your ex-girlfriend is only human, after all. If it didn't work out you deserve better and you should always maintain high self-esteem. You NEVER should to put up with a woman if crazy shit happens. Keep going out and meeting new people and you never know who you may find. As far as your pain from the breakup, it is because you are attached to the past moment. You are unwilling to let go. Fortunately, the past doesn't matter. The key is to find joy in the present moment. Forget about the "why"; the now is what counts. You will find many better women and have a lot more adventures ahead of you. Look forward to it :)

MitchsLoveSmilyFaces · 2011-09-26T02:40:38+00:00

You broke it off with one girl. There are three and a half billion others. You'll get over it.

angrybrother273 · 2011-09-26T05:55:20+00:00

Hang out in a group of 3 - 6 male friends and go out looking for women together.

Anonatypus · 2011-09-26T15:39:45+00:00

Same here my first serious girl, just about 2 years. I just work harder, workout harder, and think of how good it is to be single with all of these girls just waiting to get picked up. I know it hurts man you just have to get yourself the social attention to help let go. It really sucks that it ended, but its opening up a whole other world.

billweeds · 2011-09-26T16:05:50+00:00

I just got out of a 4 year relationship (I'm young so it's a good chunk of my life). The best advise I can give you is to do things you couldn't do while you where dating. You need to appreciate all this free time you have now. Relationships take a lot of time out of your schedule. Wear clothes you like that she thought looked stupid. Watch movies you like that she didn't.

Enjoy being single. Besides the fact that you can now fuck a lot of new girls, there are a lot of perks to not having to please someone. You no longer have to worry about what she thinks. You are truly free to do whatever the fuck you want.

mahredditaccount · 2011-09-26T18:17:23+00:00

I know this sounds really cliche, but it does get better. I promise. I felt horrible about 3 months ago when I broke up with my gf, and we were together for quite a long time. Talk to your friends a lot. Talk to your parents a lot. It's amazing how much they can help. As people have mentioned, the gym works wonders too :)

keyframing · 2011-09-27T01:15:38+00:00

Wow, this post hits home. I've been deciding in the past week or so to end my current LTR. I just feel that we aren't connected anymore, and that calls seem more like a chore. It seems like its a mutual feeling, but it hasn't been discussed. Either she doesn't want to bring it up or she's oblivious to the fact that we spend less and less time together. I feel like its fallen on me to end it, but I can't ever find the right time to do it. I guess there is never a right time.

wgardenhire · 2011-09-26T02:52:43+00:00

It should be the hardest thing you've ever had to do and you should feel like shit - anything less and you're just another asshole. Time - Just Time.

idomiralin · 2011-09-26T10:31:06+00:00

Hey man! Just think, that it is better for you, that the relationship ended, because you don't want to complicate your life. You should find a girl, in which presence you feel comfortable and can have a healthy relationship with. So go out and join in activities, do sports, listen to music, do whatever you like. If you find a better girl, you will surely forget about her. So go out and have fun. Want to find out more about dating and self-improvement, then visit http://seduceandattract.blogspot.com/.

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Title	The hardest thing I've ever had to do
Author	redditor3000
Upvotes	2
Comments	23
Date	September 26, 2011 12:55 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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