If you don't want details, read the last two paragraphs. A girl and I have been "talking" on and off for the last 6 months. We really started to kick it off at the beginning of August. Throughout this time, we fooled around a little here and there, but being an hour away (during the summer) there wasn't much time to fool around when we did hang out [still live with parents].

She had made it clear that she wasn't ready to date when we got back to school. I called her out on something "fishy" going on (gut instinct, I was right), and when she told me she just didn't have that urge to see me everyday she didn't want to date. Ok, fine. Thinking of everything she did for me, I stood up, looked her in the eyes, and said goodbye as I walked out the door. Fast forward a week.

We're hanging out again. Got past my stubbornness. Fine, we'll just be friends and fool around as we had been. Fast forward to a week ago. We're in my car, and she tells me she wants to tell me something, but feels bad about it. After some light persistence/teasing she says that she's really starting to like me. We're hanging out at least 5 days a week, getting ice cream, cooking dinner, sharing wine, etc. Since my birthday is coming up this weekend, she had been texting a lot telling me about surprises for my bday, cake, and all the fun we'll have. This week is golden. We made dinner, had wine, made desserts, just a blast. Until last night.

Turns out, there's another guy she isn't sure if she has feelings for. She doesn't hang out with him much at all (obviously, we're hanging out most of the time). Instead of dismissing the situation and walking away, I made a conversation out of it. Long story short, she cares about me a lot, which I can tell. But her hesitance lies with this guy for some reason. I know there's more to it, but she won't say/doesn't know. Yes, they did hook up once while drunk last semester as a rebound from her ex, however have done nothing since. I believe her when she says she has feelings for me, and doesn't want to commit until she's 100% for me. She's afraid to lose my friendship if we date/breakup. I told her to figure her shit out, or I'm gone. I re-stated "or I'm gone."

I care about her a lot, and she did put thought into my bday gift too... which is a first for me. What do I do? If you read this book, I appreciate and will consider all advice...

tl;dr Girl I have been talking to for 6 months on and off finally spills that her limitations of emotions for me (and why we aren't dating) are due to another guy she isn't sure of with her feelings. Help.