How to speak slower?

cody_au · 2012-01-21T13:23:20+00:00

The problem is probably not that you speak too quickly, but the problem may be that enunciation is unclear, or, more likely ...

Your speech is structured in such a way that others can't follow your train of thought (especially if you are assuming prior knowledge of the situation, subject, or participants, that doesn't exist outside of your head). i.e. Being a shit storyteller.

Saint947 · 2012-01-21T13:30:11+00:00

You're like me. I think fast, I tall fast, and I act fast. I used to slow down for others but I realized it wasn't my problem. What you can do so that you're understood and people follow with you is to resonate your voice deeper than your throat. When you do this, you have to really speak from the gut and your body will make you stop to catch a breath or you'll start talking as if you're choking. Words are, after all, only air being pushed past your vocal cord. Think of speaking as working a forge and your gut is the bellows. Relax your torso, breathe from the gut, talk from the gut, and resonate your words as low in your body as you can. Your body's natural homeostatic mechanisms will take care of the rest.

Also. There is no reason to get your point across quickly in normal conversation. I talk fast because I always have so much to say about anything and I teach everyone I meet in some subject or another. If you're going to talk fast make sure it is because you have a lot of substance; not because you want to make sure your point is heard. Practice what I just wrote for how to speak and the rest will take care of itself.

FloppyWaffle · 2012-01-21T12:36:45+00:00

Practice speaking by yourself. Spend the time you take in front of the mirror getting ready in the morning to work in talking slowly and clearly; you ca. Also see the body language and facial expressions you give off. Then whenever you find yourself alone, in the car for example, just practice speaking on a specific subject as if you were in conversation. Real world conversations also throw in other factors that change the feeling of conversation, but you will see with your practice that you begin to catch and control yourself better.

Practice makes perfect.

Odin_13 · 2012-01-21T13:17:52+00:00

Find a role model who speaks slowly (I like Michael Emerson (Ben) from Lost). Imitate him or her.

Alternatively, download a William Shatner song such as "Together" and talk at the same pace.

I am serious.

bolxrex · 2012-01-21T18:49:24+00:00

I think of this as a compatability issue. You will eventually meet someone who's mind works in a similar capacity to yours, and the click will be amazing. Think of anyone else who can't keep up as a slowpoke who needs to do some mental aerobics on their own.

Dutaun · 2012-01-21T11:41:35+00:00

If there is I would love to know too.

nmcyall · 2012-01-21T11:47:59+00:00

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DrLio · 2012-01-21T12:38:56+00:00

Try this a couple of times and let me know if it works for you: Start a conversation with someone (preferable someone you are attracted to) and try to assume the a role of listener as much as you can (meaning ask questions and instead of offering your insight just listen, then ask more questions). Every time is your turn to speak, leave a long PAUSE of silence (even to the moment that it becomes awkward). Then speak at what ever you believe to be a retarded slow speed. Then let her talk, listen. Ask another question. Long PAUSE. Speak slow. Repeat. Do it a couple of times with different people. Then go back to a regular conversation (hopefully someone you are attracted to) and see if you notice the difference.

suprsolutions · 2012-01-21T13:31:47+00:00

In California, it's normal to talk at lightspeed. When I talk to people from the south I feel like a cow taught them how to speak. Sssssslllllllooooooowwwww.....

Scythe_of_the_Celt · 2012-01-21T17:03:27+00:00

I'm split on this issue. I've met people who talk very fast, and loud, who knock down any alphas in the room with their explosiveness. Police officers talk very fast; this one kid who was absolute dynamite I met in college, it's impossible to talk over him when he opens his mouth and he speaks very fast, and with strong gestures too!

bmay · 2012-01-21T17:43:36+00:00

This is just a symptom of social anxiety. It sounds like you think that people are not interested in what you have to say and that if you don't work to maintain their interest, they are going to walk away. This is generally not the case. A lot of people (at least the ones that are worth being around) will genuinely listen to what you have to say. I'm not saying you should speak one word a minute, but if you talk calmly and clearly, most people will listen.

dgc3 · 2012-01-21T18:10:03+00:00

breathe

recoil669 · 2012-01-21T19:41:30+00:00

Just think of Berry White before you say anything.

JohnnyTaco · 2012-01-22T05:55:30+00:00

Just try and do it. It's a habit right now to speak fast, and if you consciously try and speak slower, you'll eventually start doing it. There isn't really a half step exercise, you just start trying to do it in everyday conversation.

Title	How to speak slower?
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Date	January 21, 2012 11:28 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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