Use of self degradation to talk to girls?

orangeapplegrape · 2012-03-09T03:07:11+00:00

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Havok310 · 2012-03-09T13:21:21+00:00

Self deprecating humor works very well if you're good at it. But if you're good at it, you're probably someone who uses it socially and can appreciate a good joke (told by others) at his own expense.

If you do have that style sense of humor then it's all about 3 things;

Be clear in tone that you're kidding and don't actually doubt yourself (you don't want to come off as lacking confidence)
If you're highlighting a trivial flaw - Own it (this is stated elsewhere). Show your pride of it, or at least the fact that it doesn't stop you from being confident and having a good time.
Don't overuse it. This is probably the one not stressed enough by existing comments. If it works, cool... but if you're always shitting on yourself, eventually it's going to stand out, even if it's just humorous. Something will stick in her brain (whether it be your lack of other good material, or actually questioning whether or not you believe any of it) and you're lost. Additionally, overusing it (and this goes back to #1 as well in terms of tone) can start to make her wonder if you're fishing for compliments... like you want her to correct you and tell you how awesome you are. Don't be that guy.

2012-03-09T08:53:05+00:00

If it's not a joke, it's pathetic. And if it is a joke, and it's not funny, then stop saying it. If it's a joke and it's funny, don't make it your only one.

2012-03-09T04:38:39+00:00

I never do it, it's not my sense of humor .

jingidy · 2012-03-09T05:03:02+00:00

Short answer: no. Long answer: only if you own it. Like saying that you can't sing while singing off key and loving it.

RandianHero · 2012-03-09T22:44:29+00:00

If someone is teasing you about something and you have a laugh about it instead of getting a fractured ego, that's a good thing. It shows confidence.

Intentionally degrading yourself, however, is just a bad idea. At best, it makes people think you're weird. At worst, they think you're making a plea for attention.

misstricky · 2012-03-10T22:27:03+00:00

Good self-degradation is an art. There's a very big difference between clever and pathetic.

2012-03-09T06:53:49+00:00

Always throw in big words - not in an opener but in a conversation, the bigger the better (but not all the time). It increases your perceived value.

Title	Use of self degradation to talk to girls?
Author	orangeapplegrape
Upvotes	0
Comments	15
Date	March 9, 2012 3:01 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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