Kinda interesting look at some misconceptions about shy women - Problems Facing Women Who Are Shy And Inexperienced With Men

rainbowfalcon · 2012-03-10T18:14:31+00:00

I found the second half more interesting where it talks about the myths that no women can have trouble getting a boyfriend

M0j0_J0j0 · 2012-03-10T21:37:57+00:00

makes some good points. i've definitely been called out on for seeming aloof or snobby when i'm just shy.

a friend of mine initially thought i was snobby/bitchy for not saying hi, but really i just wasn't sure if he remembered me and felt awkward saying anything lol

PublicStranger · 2012-03-11T04:03:31+00:00

I think this is really important:

Women often complain that they only get approached by men they would never be interested in, like pervy older guys at the grocery store, or cocky meatheads at the bar who are obviously just looking for sex. This is a particular problem for shy women who are into guys who are more quirky or sensitive or intellectual, since those types of men typically tend not to be as aggressive about approaching people.

I'm shy, passive, and introverted. I get irrationally nervous when I'm attracted to a guy. I have a hard time making small talk, too; I like to get into the meat of a conversation right away. And then I like to be alone for long periods of time. It takes me much longer than usual to warm up to someone.

I'm attracted to guys who are like me (and, yes, I find shyness endearing—so long as it doesn't stem from poor self-perception, but is instead more of a habitual behavior from an otherwise well-adjusted guy). But guys who are like me don't approach girls very easily. They usually end up with girls who are outgoing enough to woo them—and then I curse myself for letting them slip through my fingers like that.

The guys who do go after me tend to be exactly the kind of guy I'm not attracted to. There's nothing wrong with these guys, but they just don't appeal to me personally. We're on different wavelengths. But since they're virtually the only ones who approach, they're the ones I usually end up on dates with, and it almost always ends up being a waste of time for both of us.

metshower · 2012-03-10T22:27:06+00:00

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aeromalzi · 2012-03-11T02:14:57+00:00

Out of my experience with shy women I've dated, I've always been cautious about the ones who are inexperienced because I've had women who did end up becoming clingy. Not that all shy, inexperienced women are clingy or whatnot. Still a fantastic read. Greatly appreciated.

gabriot · 2012-03-11T00:25:00+00:00

I'm having trouble understanding why being shy means that they don't respond to texts or say no to dates with people they're interested in... can anyone elaborate on this or back it up?

2012-03-21T06:32:47+00:00

Still don't quite agree with some parts. I think the shyness of a woman often just serves as an automatic filter for guys with substandard game; the real gentleman who can sweep her off the feet will eventually be the ones that woo her and deserve her.

2012-03-11T00:53:14+00:00

all a woman has to do is say yes. It's NEVER that easy for men... Unless of course you're a movie star or super rich.

healxph0enix · 2012-03-11T00:09:48+00:00

Shy girls are so cute haha. Some shy girls have a crazy side and man...it is sexy:)

Title	Kinda interesting look at some misconceptions about shy women - Problems Facing Women Who Are Shy And Inexperienced With Men
Author	rainbowfalcon
Upvotes	50
Comments	21
Date	March 10, 2012 6:12 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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