I would hardly say that I'm the only former AFC that was initially very put off by this subreddit when I first came across it, which was some time ago. At least a year. I first subscribed to it because, hey, I could use some improvement in my love life.

Then I started reading FR's. Successful ones. And it filled me with a sense of jealousy and bitterness that I wasn't getting results like that. What the fuck? I'm funny, smart. What's up? Eventually the rhetoric started to wear on me. I didn't get all the terms and it seemed like such a game (it is, but I didn't get it yet) and I was just generally offended at the whole notion. So I unsubscribed.

What I've recently come to realize though is that what this subreddit is about is improving the quality of your interactions with everyone, not just women. At base, it's nothing more than confidence building.

We call the place seddit but after awhile, and I think a lot of people would agree with me, that closing women almost comes to be more of a by-product of an increase in confidence. Almost more of a perk, than anything.

But you have to try. You have to practice and that's what I didn't understand before. Those FR's that would just piss me off were the product of practice and I didn't appreciate that at the time. So I worked on it. Diligently. Got blown out more than a few times and it's true what you say, that the more rejects I go through, the easier it gets.

So I'd like to submit my first FR. Nothing fancy but a huge victory in my eyes.

FR:

I met HB7 in class so this has been a slow, ongoing process in attraction-building but I've been very conscious about avoiding the friendzone at all costs. To make a long story short, I invited her out for the recent holiday and she agreed.

I made sure I didn't get hammered. I've embarrassed myself on first dates before due to not watching my intake and that was the last thing I wanted. By the time she showed up, I was in great spirits. I left my friends and did the solo thing.

I made sure to always have an answer. To lead the way, so to speak. The most awkward conversation you can have with a girl is when neither of you can decide on a place to go because neither one is willing to propose an idea that the other person doesn't like.

In other words, when she asked "where do you want to go?" I made sure never to answer "I don't care, where do you want to go?" Women want you to take the lead. So we went to a couple bars and I made brilliant eye contact and really, my ultimate goal was just to make sure she didn't stop laughing.

After we had a few drinks, we took a train back to my place and she stayed for a little bit. Successfully K-closed. All conversation since then has been initiated by her.

Not much of an FR, I know, but a roaring success for me.

And it's strange, it's now that I would normally start developing the early stages of one-itis, that dreaded malady.

Now though, all I can think is "she's cool, yeah, but there are so many women out there and if I can be successful with her, think of the possibilities."

Thanks seddit. I think we understand each other now.