How do you become a value giver?

VMikeL · 2012-05-14T03:46:04+00:00

Om nom says it best but In interactions or when going around a venue, you should be able to compliment and let people know they are cool when you can. This is giving value, validating peoples efforts. I know a lot of you are going whinge that this is beta - it's not. If your value is so high you can give, it really helps. It turns people on your side and makes them feel better.

2012-05-14T15:01:38+00:00

Adding to the list:

be entertaining. learn a new joke occasionally, think up challenges, games, interesting topics of conversation for your friends.

do the work of meeting new people and then introduce them to the rest of your friends. bringing new people together is very valuable and also makes you the center of those social connections.

listen to your friends' problems and their stories. be interested in their lives and give them validation and support. make them feel good about themselves. suggest new things they might like. don't be pushy or try to change them though.

do nice things like give little gifts or cook things for your social circle. plan parties and events.

live an interesting life. people enjoy just reacting to someone interesting and will want to be around you and talk about what you are doing.

TofuTofu · 2012-05-14T15:17:42+00:00

Have you read the sidebar links? There was a good discussion about this linked from the Inner Game post.

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/fx8ih/give_value_without_seeking_approval_can_someone/

IAmTheOmNom · 2012-05-14T03:21:58+00:00

Giving value. Is every time you actually do something of value to someone.

For example you make a party and invite people. Or stretching somebody some money. Though I think you should be careful with things involving money, since money might easily imply a business type relationship, but you want to have a communal type of relationship. Giving value is also ... just being there. If people like you and want you somewhere ... by actually going you are giving value to them. I just gave you value by answering your question. You can give value by various things.

Also it is important that people with higher social standing give more value. (It's like getting to hang with the cool kinds)

When you find yourself to be the leader of an (informal) group it is because you are the one giving the most value.

Xstream2 · 2012-05-15T00:58:52+00:00

My favourite night game opener is "on a scale from 1-10 how much of a kick-ass time are you having!?"... girls ALWAYS giggle and then smile and respond VERY positively to it... why? because it gives value because it conveys that I'm not trying to take anything from them, I'm making sure that she is having a fun time

lieutenantslothrop · 2012-05-14T04:10:59+00:00

It just means you show up to whatever venue you're going to and you give more than you take. That means you are less needy and less validation seeking.

Title	How do you become a value giver?
Author	oiwin123
Upvotes	7
Comments	10
Date	May 14, 2012 2:47 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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