Think about what you want and write it down. Are you looking to just pile up some casual hook-ups? Want to find a fuck-buddy? Start dating around? Or do you wanna go out and meet a girl to someday make your girlfriend? We all have different objectives, but it's shockingly easy to forget what the ultimate goal is.

(If you're reading this, that means you're 1. a human being and 2. can therefore have success with women. I honestly think know that ANYONE who really wants to can have immediate success if you try hard enough.)

It's important to not forget what you're looking for, and I'm writing this to try to save someone from making the same mistakes I have.

I basically went from being the too-nice, sweet guy who was always hung up on some girl that was bad news, to getting numbers effortlessly and hooking up fairly regularly. I don't mean to brag, but if you're confident, smile, make her laugh and make eye contact, girls will really start to lust over you.

A byproduct of my success has been losing girls that I've actually liked. I became more of a random hookup type than I wanted. I wanted to be a guy who dates around, a guy who girls wanted both sexually and to be their boyfriend, but never made any huge commitments. (I hope some of you guys can relate)

I think I let these girls slip through my fingers because I forgot what I initially wanted, and let's face it; hooking up is unpredictable, a thrill and a complete adrenaline rush.

I saw a post here a few months ago that said something like, "Some guys smell like sex and sin, others smell like white picket fences". Decide what you wanna smell like (literally and figuratively).

Do you want to be a "Watch a movie on a rainy night" guy, a "Take my hand and go on this adventure with me" guy, or a "I'm gonna be the best you'll ever have so let's go shag NOW" guy. Idk, I'm rambling, the list of guy types goes on infinitely because I just made those up.Point being: decide how you want women to see you based on what you're looking for in them.

I guess what I'm saying is that you gotta consciously think about what you want. It's easy to go out with the mindset of, "I'll get some numbers, talk to these girls and see what happens," but I think it's critical to keep in mind what you want as you talk to these girls. Doing this made me realize that I never really thought about what I wanted.

TL;DR: Keep a narrow scope of what you're looking for in girls in the back of your head. Use it to mold yourself to how you want to be seen.

EDIT: DON'T take this to mean that I think you should change who you are for a girl. I mean it as in, don't get out of control and become someone you don't like.