I was reluctant to post this is as a field report but I found that one particular interaction I had perfectly summed up the last couple of years of hard work. I wanted to share with you both my story and show you what I really have come to realize the game is all about.

I started out, like many of you, by reading “The Game”. It blew my fucking mind and the next weekend I was out there trying silly lines and techniques, while diving into the seduction community. Unfortunately I was so ridiculously insecure at the time that the main attraction of the game was the ability to manipulate rather than actual self-improvement. I got results, I fucked a lot of girls, but it got to the point where I had gained a reputation as an asshole who never treated women properly after hooking up with them. To this day I’m still making amends for some of the relationships I nuked just because I was too emotionally immature to handle them.

After some real self-reflection and inner probing I started tackling some of my insecurities and eventually got to a new level of game. I learned to love myself and to love the continual process of self-improvement. I approach girls that guys who live by tactics would be horrified with, I open with “Hey what’s up!”, ask a couple of the standard interview questions, and often give complements. To them I’m an AFC, but to most people I’m just a cool dude who’s pretty good with girls.
The following is an interaction that perfectly encompasses what the game, in my opinion, is really all about.

[Actual FR]

I was recently traveling with a friend of mine in a country where I did not speak the language very well. We were out one night and I saw two of the most gorgeous girls I’ve ever seen some true 9.5’s. I went over to them on my way to the bar and opened in their language with “Hey, wanna talk”. They giggled at my accent and informed me that they spoke English and would be happy to. They walked over to our table with me and we sat down and chatted.

I got them to teach me some local phrases, they laughed at my buddy and I’s accent. I got them to teach me the local greeting, and initiated kino this way. Pretending I didn’t understand so we kept kissing each other on the cheek. I got increasingly more sexual in the things I asked them to translate and they were giggling. After a couple of beers were enjoyed they proposed that we move to a dance club (not as much of a sexual connotation in this country, EVERYBODY dances). We transitioned to the dance floor where she taught me some of the local moves and I made a bit of a fool out of myself, but I truly did not care. Everyone was laughing at me and we were all having a good time. At that point I felt that the energy between us was pretty great, I pulled her in real close during a song and asked her to translate “I’m going to kiss you”. She made that coy face most girls make at this stage, and translated it, before she began passionately making out with me.

I knew in this country that most young women her age still live at home and that I most likely wouldn’t be getting laid that night. We ended the night around 4am and predictably she told me she lived at home, but that she really wanted to show me around the city while I was in town. I got her name, added her on facebook and she and her friend actually ended up traveling the whole country with us for the next three weeks.

The part that I feel is most important to all of this is the day I left, she looked me in the eyes and said “Goodbye Bajing, I will miss you. You make me feel so special and I’m so happy that I met you”.

That’s really all it’s about guys. We’re all out there, opening and talking to women in the hope that perhaps just one of them will turn into the situation like the one I had. The old me wouldn’t have been able to approach those girls, dance with reckless abandon, or be brazen enough to kiss a girl just 2 hours after meeting her. I ended up meeting one of the coolest girls I’ve ever had the privilege of knowing, and at the end of our time together she thanked ME for making her feel special.

Tl;dr: Be better, make other cool people feel better for having known you.

If you want to see some of my other thoughts on seduction you can check out my site at www.collegepua.com or email me at [email protected]