The 3 beliefs 99% of people hold that were screwing up my life and sabotaging my game

bootyslayer · 2013-02-22T01:51:30+00:00

Anyone else getting the annoying sidebar that covers half the page and won't go away?

cavalier2015 · 2013-02-22T01:47:34+00:00

Your section about "The One" is depressing. You make it sound like no matter who you end up with, they're a lousy option. I get that the general seduction community mantra is to avoid focusing on one girl and to expand to as many girls as you can, and that fine and dandy for me now at 19 years old, but I will continue to believe that there is a girl out there that will make me completely lose interest in other girls because she is a perfect fit for me.

2013-02-22T03:17:53+00:00

IF THEY HAVEN’T LIVED IT, YOUR FRIENDS ARE LIKELY GIVING COUNTERPRODUCTIVE ADVICE, DESPITE THEIR ENTHUSIASM

This is a very good section, not only for seduction, but life in general.

uberafc · 2013-02-22T03:01:28+00:00

Some have no one who wants to date them and some get their pick of the litter. We know its true, but allow ourselves to buy into the Hollywood lie because it is comfortable. It comforts us when we are alone and it comforts us when we have chosen to date someone exclusively.

So what about those of us who have no options. What exactly are we supposed to do. This article really makes it seem like its not possible to improve your odds, just pick whoever you can get. You didn't really provide much of an answer on how to improve, and even if its possible to go from no option guy to tons of options guy.

thirdmanin · 2013-02-22T03:26:05+00:00

A lot of good stuff here, definitely worth the time to read. Also, love the Can't Hardly Wait references.

trash-80 · 2013-02-22T06:40:21+00:00

Great article, a lot of worthwhile advice to consider.

stunspore · 2013-02-22T06:54:28+00:00

all solid advice. all stuff i've sort of thought about but never really took the time to put into words i guess.

the section on friends and family does really suck... (not that it was written poorly..) but because it's true. No one will get or simply listen to why I gotta do what I gotta do... because what I'm doing now isn't getting me results or the life I want and going down "the scary path" is the only way to do it.

RaiausderDose · 2013-02-22T08:03:25+00:00

I like the part that your friends give you the worst advice. I have really problems to get a girl and my friend, who has had a girlfriend everytime just says useless things like "just wait" or "do it", he doesn't understand that getting a girl for someone isn't easy.

He was a fantastic family, I have none, he's very confident, I'm not. So the advice is hurting me more than it helps.

2013-02-22T05:08:18+00:00

Interesting. I've been looking for an Idol, coach, hero, father, or any other names you might put on it. Just haven't found it. The Internet helps, reddit a huge plus. I just have no long term goal. Yeah I'm improving my inner game, working in social and financial. Just not seeing a future point yet. It's so much better than depression.

quintin3265 · 2013-02-23T16:32:54+00:00

I strongly disagree with most of this article.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to take risks. There are some people who quit their jobs, slaved away for years and became the CEO of major corporations and now live like kings. But articles like these bother me because they make it sound as if the only prerequisite for success in anything is just putting yourself out there and trying.

Articles like these sell. If the article had told you that you should keep your standard office job, then you wouldn't have clicked on it. People don't like to read stuff that is realistic or negative.

For every one person who succeeds, there are probably a hundred who fail. Think of all the washed up singers in Hollywood. These people aren't writing articles proclaiming that people can do anything. They're struggling to get by and working two hard jobs to get out of debt.

The article said that you should listen to advice from people who have done it before. If it matters, I have done it before. I tried starting a business five times, and each time I lost a lot of money. I'm not saying that you shouldn't try, but you need to be aware that by far the MOST LIKELY OUTCOME is that you will never succeed, no matter how hard you try.

Furthermore, programming isn't something to be disparaged. Programmers save lives and cure diseases. They make those cell phones that you use every day. They created this site that you are reading now. Consider what your life would be like if there weren't any programmers in the world. Now consider what it would be like if there weren't any singers in the world. Would you rather go to medieval-style live campfire concerts once in a lifetime, or listen to instrumental music anywhere in the world at any time on a device you can fit in your pocket? Would you rather listen to vocal music or not be alive at all because the drug for the disease you have was never discovered?

The fact is that life is about more than just being stupidly happy all the time. Life is also about making a difference in the world, about contributing to society, and about making things better for people - and the reason programming jobs pay well is because there is a need for them. Chasing happiness without contributing anything is a pointless existence.

If you spend your life thinking that you need to do something else to be happy, then chances are you'll keep doing something else over and over again. Consider everything you have right now and ask yourself if you truly have any reason not to be happy. Unless you have a serious illness, or live in a third-world country in abject poverty, the answer is almost certainly "no." Happiness is something that is obtained internally by how you think. Articles like these encourage people to think about happiness as a something that is set in stone, rather than something that is in your mind.

ronpaul2013 · 2013-02-22T02:26:42+00:00

SPAM

kazagistar · 2013-02-22T01:22:19+00:00

Forget what is popular and ask yourself what resonates with you.

If the point is to bypass subjective bias in the mind, you won't get there by thinking harder about it, that is absurd. You get there by testing things out, and seeing which model is the best experimentally, by observation and scepticism.

Money does not buy happyness. Relationships do.

On average. That is what the statistics say. And the part about fucking being the pinacle of your life? Not even supported by statistics, just straight up made up. Maybe it is true for you, but I prefer a different set of values in life.

Conquer_All · 2013-02-22T15:34:33+00:00

Man, everyone's always ripping on BMWs. I love my beemer.

gabriot · 2013-02-22T20:47:01+00:00

I love all these supposed life gurus and their shitty advice. Yeah, follow your heart and do something that doesn't make any money at all, that will turn out well when you're 60 years old with no bank account at all and no social security and no retirement plan whatsoever.

xbloodvampx · 2013-02-22T04:14:01+00:00

Can i get a TLDR?

Title	The 3 beliefs 99% of people hold that were screwing up my life and sabotaging my game
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Upvotes	141
Comments	30
Date	February 21, 2013 11:33 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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