Do any of you ever feel haunted about mistakes you've made in the past? Please share.

erictgill · 2013-04-09T16:17:56+00:00

Yeah, this past weekend im pretty sure I screwed up. I was drunk at a friend's apartment and walked outside on his balcony to smoke. Outside there were two chicks and one of them wanted to make conversation and asked me "how I was doing." Long story short I came off like some drunk melodramatic guy talking about my divorce. And needless to say the conversation was short. I was very embarrassed the next morning.. still am... but f*ck it lol... it was a learning experience. Lesson learned dont get really drunk after a divorce and try to hold a real conversation with women.

Mr_Oh_Yea · 2013-04-09T19:30:16+00:00

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puntingbaxter · 2013-04-09T16:36:32+00:00

Yes, and I remind myself to the point it makes me sick. Then I turn it into motivation.

Indigo_Sunset · 2013-04-09T20:05:54+00:00

taking things too fast, no matter how 'into it' she says she is. it leads to expectations and fortune telling about the possibilities of a future.

tl dr: don't bake a cake at 600 for 3 min hoping to get a good cake.

2013-04-09T15:49:04+00:00

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fensous · 2013-04-09T18:51:03+00:00

I lived the last six years of my life in complete and utter loneliness. I didn't even realise how bad it was, and now that I have, I feel like killing myself every two days. But I'll get there. It's babysteps all around but I'm a lot closer to the life I want to live than before.

Just gotta keep it together and I know everything will be fine.

2013-04-09T20:02:31+00:00

Yes, when I didn't approach a girl that could have turned out to be someone really great. I end up regretting later. Better to try and fail than not try at all.

Trygle · 2013-04-09T21:57:41+00:00

Rumination is never helpful.

It exaggerates failures and trivializes successes.

Though my most memorable screw up was when I failed to remember to show up for a date due to oversleeping.

Yup. Oversleeping. Of all the freakin reasons.

RG68 · 2013-04-10T03:20:44+00:00

Last night I got heinously drunk and almost pulled a HB0 in some grimy run down club... I'm incredibly hungover and I'm haunted by visions of myself kissing this poor girl.

KaptainKid · 2013-04-09T21:08:01+00:00

Beginning of this semester, started talking/hanging out with a girl I met here at college. This was my first pick up via using the things I had learned here from Seddit. I tried not to get in too deep, but I was started to genuinely like this girl. That's not a problem, except for when you're vulnerable.

She said she felt the same way and then things "miraculously" changed once I didn't do one small favor for her. I guess I don't really regret walking away after that, I mainly just wish I wouldn't have let myself slip like I did because I knew some stupid shit like that would have happened.

She was cool as fuck and a freak in the sheets, but you can't win every time. Luckily, there's only millions of other girls out there to pick from.

nittutt · 2013-04-09T21:45:48+00:00

Well, i have my reference experiences but i don't think they are bad nor good. They are what they are, experiences. If i choose to take ANYTHING positive or negative from them, i dismantle them as something that happened in the past (by letting it affect the present) which is not a good thing.

I've fucked up A LOT of times. Ruined TONS of friendships and "missed out" on SO MANY girls you'd be depressed if you ever knew... However, i regard them only as EXPERIENCES. Not as bad or good memories. Memories are to cherish what is not there anymore, girls are always there and should therefore not be memories.

I hope i made myself understandable.

Naonin · 2013-04-10T00:49:13+00:00

Id say getting married to a mentally ill chick at 19, that turned into a divorce at 20 (thank god, no kids) was a big mistake.

The relationship was very abusive and I was a pussy. The biggest thing everyone was always afraid of for me is that I'd become callous towards women after it. I am not callous towards women in general, I do have a problem with principals that my ex held and see them as hurtful to all men. I don't think that's wrong because things like 3rd wave feminism only serve to hurt men and women.

Socially, I spent a year and a half being emotionally abused (youre a piece of shit husband, you can't provide anything, so on) all the while being forced to isolation. Real mind Fuck.

I'm learning as best I can to be a dominant man/lover, but when you're trained that anytime you step up with dominance that wasn't asked for you may get the cops called on you or a knife comes out or various other manipulations, it's tough to change.

2013-04-10T01:44:15+00:00

Obliviousness.

On Match of all places, this beautiful and smart girl approached ME and we set up a few dates. On the last date we had we walked to the parking lot and she does the whole lean to one side and head tilt and says "You know, I don't know why you hang out with someone as lame as me" and what do I do? I crack some jokes and say see ya around.

Another time at a bar I got done on the dance floor and head to the bar for water. This girl i was having small talk with suggests that we do shots. I tell her i don't drink and I get back to dancing. My friend told me she was eyeing me the whole night.

I hope this isn't bragging because in the end our situations have similar lessons: we failed to take the opportunity to escalate. We just gotta move forward and not make the same mistakes. Best of luck to you!

TL:DR I didn't deliver

februaryrich · 2013-04-10T02:15:37+00:00

This one has been haunting me for the past year or so. So I noticed this girl in my french class and she's totally my type right. To me, she was a perfect 10. I was too much of a pussy to come right up to her and tell her so I decided adding her on Facebook was a better way. She rejects my friend request (no shit) and one day at my dentist's office I notice a graduation picture of her. I'm like what the fuckk right. I mention it to one of the dentist and it turns out it's her daughter. Her mom decides to tell her I know her and shit (which I obv. don't) and it turns out she's friend with a good friend of mine and I went to her bday party. She was looking at me like I was a freak. I get that I'm an idiot for doing that and I regret it sincerely. The only thing I can really do is to get over it. TLDR: Fuck being asperger's

2013-04-10T02:18:34+00:00

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2013-04-10T02:47:57+00:00

If it still haunts you, that's your weakness creeping up and trying to take you over.

Mooninites7 · 2013-04-10T07:01:12+00:00

the only mistakes I'm haunted by are in which I didn't make a move on a girl and I just let opportunities pass by. I'm sure I've made mistakes were I've come off as an idiot to a girl, but the ones that stick in my mind are all related to not doing anything.

One in particular comes to mind with this girl we'll call Jacqueline that I met at a conference in Chicago. I still to this day maintain that she is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen and 5 years have passed. Needless to say I'm over it, but after talking and getting close I never closed the deal

peoplecrazy · 2013-04-10T16:05:09+00:00

Had a girl in my bed after a party and we cuddled

Title	Do any of you ever feel haunted about mistakes you've made in the past? Please share.
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Date	April 9, 2013 3:45 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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