Techniques and tricks when talking to shy girls. How do you treat them to overcome their reluctance to interact?

unruly_teapot · 2013-05-26T16:39:10+00:00

All this comments and advice here are horrible...

What happened to the seddit mentality? You automatically jump to the conclusion that she is not interested or uncomfortable, all the comments reek of fear.

That being said: One thing i have noticed and many of people who have "gamed" i bet have noticed too, is that shy girls are actually harder to pick up than the social outgoing type.

And that is because like beta males these girls are crippled by they own insecurities, and any interaction with said girls puts a great deal of pressure on them and they just don't know how to handle it.

I for one try to avoid gaming this kind of girls unless i find them very VERY attractive.

In that case what will help you is knowing how to calibrate your own energy, if you are a "PUA" you subconsciously put a very energetic aura when interaction with people (socially or to pick up) which works really well with most people, but shy girls will be overwhelmed by it.

So what you do is "mimic" their aura, lower your energy to calibrate to theirs to make them feel comfortable around you, this way they will relate to you more easy and will open up to you. Fromhere on is just regular game, rapport, kino etc.

Now you dictate the flow of the interaction you just need to use it to escalate to where you want it to, keeping in mind to always calibrate with her every time you want to move one step up because if you escalate to fast you risk overwhelming her again.

As said this is why gaming shy girls is harder, but entirely doable.

todayismyday2 · 2013-05-26T11:09:39+00:00

Shy girls don't usually end conversations, they usually just be passive in them.

2013-05-26T15:56:54+00:00

Just be your charming, value giving self. If a shy girl likes you, she'll give off the same IOIs but in a more subdued manner. Escalate slower, and establish a lot of rapport. Break rapport less, or in less dramatic ways. Just do what you normally do, but calibrate for her shyness.

lilhurt38 · 2013-05-26T21:07:19+00:00

If I'm being honest, I usually next them. I can't stand trying to have a conversation with people who are shy. I'm naturally shy myself, so it's just a bad combination. I hate having to pry a conversation out of someone. I get along with people who are really talkative because I don't have to pry it out of them. One thing that has worked well with shy people in general is asking them about themselves. Find something that you have in common with them and talk about that.

whothefuckisG · 2013-05-26T10:00:56+00:00

Maybe she's not shy, instead the way you came on made her uncomfortable. What was your approach?

Nailpolished · 2013-05-26T14:28:10+00:00

i might not be the best adviser here because i have to learn this whole pick-up thing again from the scratch since i was off for many years, BUT shy girls may have this certain appeal and even more when they are cute and gorgeous and arent really aware of it. the problem is, most of them are boring and dont become suddenly freaky in bed. shy is one thing but if they dont warm up as you explained, there is a reason for it. some shy girls simply have no idea how to flirt and to respond but you can break the ice. if you have the feeling it's a pain in the ass to make all these efforts and you dont get ANY response, leave it like that, skip and go on to the next one. do not built up any oneitis for your own peace and sanity.

EDIT:

i did heavy generalizations. deal with it.

unVINCEable · 2013-05-26T16:25:12+00:00

This is actually a really interesting discussion prompt. I want to try taking the Rocky Balboa way, kind of just being up front about things. I watched Rocky last night so its kinda fresh, but just talk to her to talk. Make her see you as a decent guy and just talk to her anytime you get to. Hopefully with time she will eventually open up about herself.

2013-05-26T22:53:14+00:00

I'd like to point out there's a difference between shy and looking to end it quickly because they're nervous and don't know what to do in the situation BUT are into you and girls who are just boring, shy people who you shouldn't even be trying to go after.

In the former case it's important to tone down your energy, take up the conversational load and be fun and self amusing in a low key way to maintain a positive energy and show her good emotions even when she's not participating as much.

Nailpolished · 2013-05-26T10:47:31+00:00

Or maybe she doesn't want to talk to you and you should take the hint. :)

Title	Techniques and tricks when talking to shy girls. How do you treat them to overcome their reluctance to interact?
Author	unruly_teapot
Upvotes	61
Comments	25
Date	May 26, 2013 9:35 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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