INTRO

In almost all forms of interactions people are communicating outwardly. However, to those who are more socially savvy, they can detect a second "internal" conversation going on between the two parties. These people have the ability to use this "second language" to influence the behavior of others and steer the conversation to benefit themselves. Basically, there's an external language that is seen on the outside (Words). And an internal language, that is communicated through non-verbal dialogue (emotional messages behind the words, body language and actions.)

Basically, if you can master the art of sub communication, you can master the art of building instant attraction and boosting an already established attraction with women you know. It takes some time to become more aware of this, since a lot of it deals with understanding social dynamics and the "psychology of sex."

This is a little guide on understanding sub communications so people can learn from it and learn to apply it in the real world. Mastering the art of non-verbal communication is one of the biggest assets you can have in game, and as they say, it is a game changer.

Also, I want to give credit to where I learned most of this from: David Deangelo. He has some of the best material out there and it was this particular topic that I remembered the most from his dvds and books.

UNDERSTANDING SUB COMMUNICATIONS

When we're talking to someone else, were conveying a messages through our words. However, there may be underlying messages that we send to them regarding our actions or some other discreet forms of communication. A lot of times these sub communications can be used to influence someone else's emotions or actions.

Example 1

You're at the club and hanging out with some friends, you're drinking with them and having a good time. You decide to leave your friends for a bit to dance with a hot girl you've been checking out. Instead of getting her number, you simply leave her and go back to you're friends. Later on you leave them again to dance with another hot girl, and instead of getting her number you simply walk away and go back to your friends.

You do this through out the course of the night, many of the girls have spotted you dancing with other hot girls. Before you know it you catch many of them looking at you, maybe you even get approached by some of the hot girls.

Sub communication: On the outside to people unaware of social dynamics, it just looks like you're dancing with random women and leaving them for whatever reason. However, to the women, an underlying message from your actions has already been conveyed to them. This message is that you're high status but find even attractive women at time uninteresting, you've got other things to attend to rather than just entertaining women. A women's response to this would be to try to validate themselves to you. Thus, an emotional attraction is built within them.

Example 2

You're simply relaxing with a couple friends. You have a woman with you but she's off somewhere else (maybe talking to her girlfriends). You're taking up space with the way you sit and have a confident sitting posture. Your girl comes over to you and tries to get your attention. You don't nudge though, you simply hold your frame. She tries to pull and push you, trying to get you to validate her. You still don't move, sometimes you just smile and continue talking to you friends. Every once in a while you may look her in the eyes, kiss her, tell a few jokes, then resume to talking to your friends. She ends up trying even harder to get your attention after.

Sub communication: To your friends, they're most likely thinking "what the hell is wrong with him?" Most people would jump at the chance to give her the attention she wants and validate themselves to her. However, you're ignoring her and holding your frame. The non-verbal communication here is that she can't emotionally satisfy you as easily as she can with other men, she isn't the center of your attention despite her looks. Women respond to this by becoming increasingly attracted to the challenge that is sub communicated, they'll end up trying even harder to validate themselves to you.

Example 3

You're talking to a girl that you met in a bar. You and her go on about different topics. She's leaning forward to you. You're leaning back. You drink your whiskey slowly while eyeing her at the same time. She's responding with a smile and strong eye contact. You both continue conversing about other topics.

Sub Communication: You're body language played a large role here. In the case of her leaning forward she was showing subtle interest in you, you were leaning back, showing disinterest. The slow movements conveyed confidence and self control, and the strong eye contact and posture were telling her "it's on" in a discreet way. She's subconsciously taking in all these signals and becoming emotionally stimulated by it, she may not be so sure what's going on even though you're not doing much verbally, but she still feels a deep sense of attraction for you.

More on the topic of the "secret language"

I simply like to call this the secret language because most people are unaware that they use it or are being affected by it. Those who can master the art of sub communication can use "the secret language" to their advantage. Every interaction that you have with a girl involves both of you speaking "the secret language" internally. If you are able to persuade her using this second language, you're able to persuade her emotions and actions.

Whenever your interacting with women or people in general. Think hard about the dynamics going on between both of you. Think about the underlying messages being sent to one another when you're talking. Are you using the proper body language to convey the message? Are you're actions properly sending the intended sub communication? Are you're words sending the proper emotional messages to her? Or is it being convoluted and the only communication going on is that of the first language?

Mastering the "secret language" is one of the greatest ways to master game.