How to have an awesome night out

dearlenny · 2013-07-13T04:45:32+00:00

ACTION

Approach. Approach. Approach. You will get better at every approach, you can see your progress at the same night. When you approach, talk to new girls and new people, it helps your momentum and your game gets better. I walk out of every set more awesome that I was before.

Dance, have a good time, laugh, do some crazy stuff. Do what you think will be fun for you to do.

It's your journey! You want the girl, you don't need her, you are enough. When approaching a girl, you're giving her the opportunity to be part of the awesome night that you're living. You don't want to enter her world, what you want is to suck her into yours.

Assume attraction. Every girl is attracted to you, some of them don't know this yet, but with time they find out.

Opening

The most important thing to know when opening: When you believe it will work, it will work. So, do everthing with 100% belief it will work.

The most efficient thing to say when opening: "Hey, who are you?" / "Hey, what's your name?"

The best way to say something: Breaking rapport. Commanding voice. Watch this(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4VDslvC4_5w). Remember: Smile and don't be rude. Just don't be a chode either.

The hand of God

Put your hand in the air with the palm facing up, for her to put her hand above yours. Sometimes I say "Hey!" for her to know I'm doing this for her to grab my hand.

It's good because it's a compliance test just in the begining of the interaction, if she accepts, you know it's on. Then just do some terrible dance move, ask her name, her age, whatever...

The Claw

Just a little difference beetween the last one. When doing The Claw, you acctually grab her, you don't wait for her to accept. Grab her arm and turn her to the front of you and say something. "Hey, who are you?" it's good enough for me.

Dancing

There is a lot of ways of opening when dancing. You can do something like the hand of God and then spin the girl. Or do one of the moves that this guy does in this video(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NDisJicyRkE_)

If she seems comfortable while making one of these moves with you, you can get closer and open saying wathever you want.

The simple way

See a girl. Walk in her direction. Say "Hey, who are you?"

(obs: I don't know why but I really like "who are you?", but "what's your name?" is good too.)

This is opening guys. Here in seddit and in a lot of books you will find a lot of things to say like "I thought you were really cute and had to come talk to you, what's your name?" and variations of that, what I think is pretty solid too. But I'm trying to keep things simple here, so, just know that opening is acctually very fast and very simple.

Don't worry about her reaction in the opening, sometimes you hook the girl just by asking her name, sometimes she has that "meh" look on her face but you hook her after some time. Just relax and keep going.

Attracting

To attract a girl you must create spikes of emotions and lead.

You have to make her know that you're different from the other 99% of the men that approach her every night. That you are a real man.

Some things to do that create attraction:

Make her guess your age. Always. It will get her attention for a while and you can engage a talk about how old you think she looks like, tease her about her kid's face, anything like that.
Tease her.
"I wanna fight with you. You seem too easy." I like to fight with girls, so I say this a lot and is acctually preety fun, they always say something like "I'm strong, I will win, blahblah". Say things like that, this is being playful.
"You're very pretty Julie, I think you're the fourth prettiest Julie I've ever met."
Roleplays
New girlfriend

"You will be my new girlfriend for the next 5 minutes!"

"Blahblah"

"Where we're going on our first day?"

"Err..blahbl.."

"You're too slow. Let's go to blahblah" Then take her to the bar or wathever place you want. This is leading.

Good things about roleplays is that you two have the excuse to act like a couple. You can say she is your new girlfriend and grab her hand.

We're married now

Just say something like "I'm gonna marry you, that's it! We're married now!" Then talk about where you're going on your honey moon, anything like that.

The best way to end a roleplay is when she says something a little stupid. Then you can say "Ok, I want the divorce! You keep the kids and I keep the dog!". It's a good push/pull.

Say things like "Oh, you're so cute. I'm gonna adopt you, you're my little sister now! blahblah. I'm gonna take care of you.. blahblah"
Push/pull

Push/pull is very simple. You can do it physically or you can simply act like you're desinterested sometimes.

The best push/pull that I use is to give a lot of attention, and then I start talking and playing with another girl, when I come back to the first one, she is more receptive and wanting me even more.

Win the friends

This is a new thing I'm doing that works pretty well.

So, you approach a girl.

"Hey, who are you?"

"I'm Julie, and you?"

"I'm Lenny. Is this your friends?" (point to her friends)

"Yes. blahblah."

"Oh, they seem to be having so much fun." Here you let the girl you approach and go for the friends.

"Hey, I just met your friend Julie, who are you?" (To the friends) The good thing here is that when you say you just met their friend, you will not be seen as a total stranger, so the girls will be more receptive.

Then you start having fun with the group, focusing on the friends. This will be shocking for the girl you first approached, she will be thinking "What the fuck? He approached me but now is having fun with my friends and forgot about me." Especially if the girl is very pretty, this doesn't happen with her.

And then, when you go back to the girl you first approach, she will give you much more respect, because 1.She saw that you're a different guy and that you're a fun person to be around, 2.her friends already like you. And by doing this, you prevent yourself of being cockblocked by some friend of her later.

Before asking "Is this your friends?" you can give her a compliment, like saying "I thought you were cute and had to come talk to you", and then you go for the friends, this is a push/pull, you're giving your attention and your appreciation but then you take away for some time.

Dealing with groups

Give attention to everyone. When talking, look to everyone in the group.

Touch everyone. You're a touchy and physical guy.

Something that I use and works well with groups is to "read the dynamics of the group". This is when you find out who is the bossy one, who is the bad one and who is the good one. You will find these three kind of girls in every group you approach. You will also find the funny one and other kind of girls, but the best types to work with in these situations are the bossy, the bad and the good. You can spot these three less then a minute after approaching the group.

Then just say something like: "Oh you look like the bossy one of the group!"/"You're the bad one." The other girls will probably agree or disagree with you, it doesn't matter, keep going. You can ask them who is the bad one and who is the good one. Girls love these kind of things. They have lots of fun with this. They start saying to each other "You're the bad one! blahblah"/"I'm the good one!"/"Yes, she is really bossy.. blahblah"

You can also say to one of them "Your friends are kinda crazy!". Everyone thinks their friends are crazy.

So, the best way to hook a group is to talk about them. How they met each other, "read the dynamics", spot the bossy, good and bad one.

Just have fun, tease and play with them.

Attracting - Part 2

This is after you hook the girl. It's just the time to relax and have a conversation. It's time to qualify and see if she is really a good girl.

Remember, you're in a nightclub/party/wathever, so don't go really deep trying to know her mind, her fears and her thoughts about life. Keep things simple.

What to do:

"I'm curious about you, I don't know why..."

"If you could be anything without a chance of failure, what would you be?" - Some people may not recommend to do this in a night environment but I've already done it sometimes and had success with it.

Make some statements of her. Say things like "You look like a law student."/"You look like you're not from here." It doesn't matter if you're guessing right or wrong. It's better and more fun than asking questions. But don't try to guess every single detail of her life, ask questions too or you're just going to be weird.

"Learn to seek out the truth. What makes her tick? What is she really passionate about? Is she worthy of your time? Is she girlfriend material or is she someone you will want to invite out to help you cut the line at nightclubs?" - http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1dfo7r/above_the_game_part_4_qualifying_calibration/

obs: Sometimes you don't need this second part of attraction, you can close before making a connection with the girl. You will have to feel in the interaction if this will result in just a party make-out or if it will be that girl that you spend the time together almost all night getting to know each other and kissing sometimes.

Continue...

aecc0357 · 2013-07-13T07:26:57+00:00

Saving this shit for next time I go out, great post. Needed to read something like this, I'm always so tense when going out and not taking any risks

kingcal · 2013-07-13T04:55:34+00:00

If you want to have an awesome night out, the most important thing you have to know is that YOU have make the night awesome. YOU HAVE TO MOVE! Get out of your confort zone! Feel that awkward feeling in your stomach! Try to get slapped in the face! JUST. DO. SOMETHING.

This is the single most important piece of advice here. You need to realize you're in the driver's seat. If you predestine that your night is going to be a gauntlet of awkward, painful social interactions, that's exactly what it will be. Go out with the mindset that no matter what happens you're going to have fun and you will.

JoiedevivreGRE · 2013-07-13T14:53:00+00:00

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StudCupcake · 2013-07-13T14:55:54+00:00

Another great line that pretty much always works with me is: "Um, just so you know, it costs $5 every time you touch me"

Say it with a smile, and a little early on in the interaction. As soon as she touches you, drop the line, then smile.

If she challenges and asks why, just tell her that you're not some piece of meat to be groped, tired of it happening so often, gotta feed the elephant somehow etc..

After the initial reaction, they usually smile and keep touching you over and over in different spots, and that's when you say "$5... 10... 15... 20.." keep going as she touches, then just come up with more playful things to say, and go from there.

dearlenny · 2013-07-13T06:32:42+00:00

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dearlenny · 2013-07-13T11:20:53+00:00

Great post bro, but please:

comfortable

I shouldn't even mention it, but you use the word like ten times

D3fected · 2013-07-13T12:04:09+00:00

Saved this shit for referral! As a guy getting back into the game after a long absence I thank you.

nfg91 · 2013-07-14T00:00:19+00:00

The last couple of weekends I've been watching the most recent 3-4 videos off of Julien from RSD's youtube channels before going out and I find it really motivating. Honestly went from being in a slump to getting 2 numbers and a hookup and a possible day 2(still working on the day 2) over the last 2 weekends.

Disclaimer: I am not a fashion model nor do I look like one

1vibe · 2013-07-13T10:45:14+00:00

Fing brilliant, thank you!

juanx1000 · 2013-07-13T15:06:50+00:00

Wow! This is really amazing, Thanks! It'll definitely help out my game.

ovi1340 · 2013-07-14T22:58:52+00:00

Good post

buenavibra · 2013-07-17T22:25:38+00:00

Nice piece of advice here! Thank you OP.

dearlenny · 2013-07-13T14:37:55+00:00

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Title	How to have an awesome night out
Author	dearlenny
Upvotes	696
Comments	41
Date	July 13, 2013 4:44 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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