Been on TRP for a while, losing motivation and will for everything

Chit-Chad · 2018-10-30T07:13:55+00:00

After a summer of absolute blast and owning shit, I am at a low point mentally. No reason, got shit going pretty well in all areas but for some reason life doesn't seem as fast paced and productive as it seemed to be. And that's okay, it doesn't have to be consistently happy go lucky. All you can do is keep going, forcing yourself to take care of your interests and self preservation. Don't give up on things, life may seem like a rut, but this too shall pass. Keep your head up man, and keep doing the things you enjoy, eventually your motivation will return.

One thing I did notice, I took up a lot of things for self betterment and now I'm in that phase of "now what?" Just need to find the next thing to challenge myself with. Keep working at it and keep searching.

styxus90 · 2018-10-30T08:20:46+00:00

I know there are some controversies about Jordan Peterson sometimes, but i think that, just concentrating on his expertise and not political opinion, we can agree that he is seriously educated and knows his shit.

I think that his videos and especially the book “12 rules for life“ may be the right thing for you to start with. Amongst other things, he explains how we have an innate sense of meaning, and meaning is achieved mainly by taking on responsibilities in life. He also explains how to not corrupt your sense of meaning, so that it is a good guide for your life. There is more, much more to learn from JP, just check his stuff out.

I kinda know how you feel. Lost my dad this year, too. Strong, stoic, powerful and virtuous as any man youll ever know. This knowledge helped me tremendously in really dark times.

anuhea7 · 2018-10-30T09:52:06+00:00

What you see on peoples faces is what they CHOOSE to show, remember that. A lot of people hide their problems behind their smiles.

But overall, back to answering your question it ultimately depends on your goals/philosophy in life. Do you want to get married? Have kids? Travel? Or do you want to live the bachelor life (mgtow)?

For me personally, I live my life with a combination of different philosophies and goals.

One of my main philosophies I live by quoted by Neil De grasse Tyson, “To lessen the suffering of others and to know more about the world than what I knew yesterday.”

I established early on that I did not want to get married, let alone have kids. Parenthood doesn’t appeal to me. I like my sleep. I like my money. I like my time. My goal is to retire as early as possible so I can enjoy my hobbies, travel and read a fuck ton of books. Life is finite. Do what the fuck you want to do.

inspiredshane · 2018-10-30T13:46:44+00:00

I stay motivated because if I don’t, I’ve basically given up on the presupposition that being alive is a good thing.

It’s easy to stay motivated when you see the finish line. But when you cross that line, if your only motivation was crossing it, then you’re left without purpose and direction whether you won or lost the race. And it’s purpose and direction that makes the suffering of life bearable, not success or victory.

If being alive is worth it, then it must also be true that whatever happens to us as a result of being alive must also be worth it, in the sense that it’s better than being dead and not getting to experience anything at all.

And if that’s true, that means our pain is actually good for us, as we are anti-fragile creatures who grow stronger with a bearable amount of pain every now and then. The pain that runs throughout our lives and leads to our suffering because we can’t accept our pain gracefully can be used to nourish our souls with purpose and meaning.

You’re grieving a hard loss, friend. It’s OK to feel down, to be wrecked by it. It’s OK, and it’s normal. And somewhere in the swirling vortex of pain that loss is causing you is the non-acceptance of that pain (which is your suffering), and that non-acceptance is causing you to keep from leaning into the pain and letting that pain transform you into the kind of person who would get a deep and profound meaning from the new purpose that it gives you.

Somewhere in the chaos is a tiny fleck of light, which is the light at the end of the tunnel through it. But you have to stare deep into the abyss to find that tiny fleck of light to begin with. Look at that fleck of light in the middle of the chaos, and you’ll see a vision of your future self.

What that end result looks like to you is a personal thing, and I would suggest writing about it. Having a story to tell yourself about what happened, and where you’re going, and what could happen if your best vision of the future comes true, and what could happen if your worst vision of the future comes true… well, that should provide you with more intrinsic motivation than you’ll ever need.

AwkwardEmpath · 2018-10-30T06:41:15+00:00

Sounds pretty typical. Meditate on it and realize that this will pass.

Lambdal7 · 2018-10-30T15:20:44+00:00

There are 2 important things

Get a really hot gf that you can’t leave your fingers off who also has a wonderful personality
Become a millionaire sk that you can do the things you really want to do and not what others want you to do, so that you are completely free

Do you not want to accomplish this?

BrutalMan420 · 2018-10-30T06:20:21+00:00

adversity motivates us, seems like the specific thing you have lacked judging by your post. i mean you nailed it yourself, paraphrasing you “people without education or money are motivated but here I am graduating from richkidschool and I am not motivated”.

probably because your life is too secure. why would you be motivated in that case?

i see you lost some family through some way or another, i didnt skip that part. just making assumptions by the rest of your post.

OracleofFl · 2018-10-30T12:05:51+00:00

You may be suffering from depression. Speak to your doctor. One of the symptoms of depression is something called anhedonia.

Shtafoo · 2018-10-30T12:50:23+00:00

I've been on that path. It's because this place can be depressing, and there's no proof that this is reality either. I advise you to follow your own path, take notes of things you can implement in your own life from here. And leave this sub for what it is, a place for men to gather and discuss sexual strategies.

For example: I couldn't for the life of me manage several girls, something TRP preaches as getting plates. Too much fucking drama and showing no congruent interest from me. Lifting got me in a place of self confidence, which is something I took from this sub that interested me. Also I got so fucking stuck in my head by all this theory reading I was paralyzed in social situations.

After letting go of having to do everything TRP textbook style and doing some soul searching I started believing in my self and the words that come from me are much more genuine and fluid now then back when I was reading everything like a sperg.

SergiuIlescu · 2018-10-30T13:53:39+00:00

Happy times imply unhappy times, productive times imply unproductive times, that's life for you, full of up and downs, just keep grinding even if you feel down, remember that your dad would want you to become the best man you can be.

KumonRoguing · 2018-10-30T13:56:08+00:00

I'm fond of the term "ignorance is bliss." I've been thinking the same shit. I got everything going well, and I still feel like shit. What's the end goal ya know?

FatmanO · 2018-10-30T15:22:55+00:00

I know this may not mean a lot to you, but budha has even praised that nothing lasts forever. Everything goes, earth,life, and everything else. I hope you get past it, even the motivation goes away, but its a natural process

BrodinsOats · 2018-10-30T21:21:21+00:00

Try reading Man’s Search For Meaning, by Viktor Frankl. The man survived Auschwitz. His wife, both parents, and best friend were all murdered. He barely made it out, clinging to life.

But during and after his experience, he was able to persevere.

The book helped me a lot when I was feeling pretty low. It might give you some perspective and inspiration.

Apple_OfThe_Earth · 2018-10-31T20:40:30+00:00

Life is all about ups and downs, so whoever shows that they're happy all the time they're probably lying. It's ok to feel down for a while, or purposeless, but what matter is to keep on moving. Find whatever it is that turns your crank, what makes your feel alive, like really alive and not momentarily. I found that challenges and adventure refresh my spirit, so it's different for each person.

johnnight · 2018-10-30T08:58:12+00:00

TRP is a sterile ideology. We will probably have to go back to Catholicism or sth. ~ E. Michael Jones

bootyannihilator · 2018-10-30T12:09:11+00:00

Which college may I ask?

Title	Been on TRP for a while, losing motivation and will for everything
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Date	October 30, 2018 6:13 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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