Girl that gave me huge iois, found out she has a bf. Should I still approach?

A_Suffering_Panda · 2014-04-12T01:04:32+00:00

Nobody likes that asshole. If she has a BF fucking cool it, its not like you couldnt possibly find another suitable girl. You say you found out though, so i suggest you ask her. If she says yes and continues to flirt with you point out that shes flirting with you. Either she isnt, or you should encourage her to break up with him. Dont fuck a girl with a BF though

2014-04-12T02:07:54+00:00

She knows what she's doing, all that matters is the two of you's happiness. So move forward, it's better to not know she has a boyfriend unless she actually brings him up, that's her business, not yours, yours is to seduce her, isn't it deep down?

I know I'll get downvoted, but it's the truth, I've had girls in shitty relationships pretty much beg (not literally) for me to fuck them.

lofiharvest · 2014-04-12T01:20:50+00:00

I don't typically go after taken girls. This is my code. However I will make exceptions if I am getting the vibe that she wants to leave her current relationship and I like the girl. Some women are ready to jump ship but are just waiting for the right opportunity. However if the girl decides she wants to be with me she has to break up with her old boyfriend. I don't do none of that man on the side stuff.

Zack_Fair_ · 2014-04-12T00:20:54+00:00

yes goddammit yes.

unless you don't want to. every man has a code. mine says yes. here is some stuff I posted for a similar question;

you can't attack the boyfriend directly; what you need to do is actually whenever he comes up describe him as the ideal boyfriend. exaggerate franticly about how perfect he is. this will make her bring up the fact that he's not. ( if she actually insists that he's perfect multiple times she's way too cuckoo for him ) here you actually superficially defend the boyfriend but what you're doing is reframing the behaviour she tells you about to make him look insecure . you want to paint the portrait of a well-intentioned total AFC . the essence you build around : he does it because he is insecure, he does it because he knows he'll never get a girl like you again, he wants to buy your affection with, he's scared to lose you, he's jealous, you're the most important thing in his life,... all the crap AFC's do all the while you tell her what a "terrible" boyfriend you'd make because you would do the opposite of those nice things because you are a bad boy. here is some of my boyfriend-destroyer material: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=50d588rhbIc http://www.venusianarts.com/forum/forum/discussion-and-resources/main-discussion/4911-the-worlds-most-powerful-boyfriend-destroyer-guaranteed-zebra http://www.pickupguide.com/layguide/p_bfdestroy.htm [#4]

Rangers_fan812 · 2014-04-12T00:44:08+00:00

just cause there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't score.

n3kr0n · 2014-04-12T07:45:32+00:00

Its not your business to find out if shes taken or not. So if she doesnt tell you there is no obligation for you to stop.

However, I would never be in any kind of relationship and fuck other women, if I did it, I would consider myself pathetic. Same goes for other people, and I dont fuck what I dont respect.

thedelfactor · 2014-04-12T01:15:14+00:00

It depends on your moral beliefs. Most people here will tell you "approach anybody at any time" and encourage you to approach a girl with a boyfriend because "it won't affect you directly" and "you interfering with their relationship is only helping the guy find out that he shouldn't be with her in the first place". I personally disagree with this mentality.

I was faced with this same situation just the other day. I even went as far as asked the girl to go out for a drink with me, to which she accepted. I'm pretty new to this whole seduction thing, so this doesn't happen too often for me yet. The reason I ended up turning her down was because even if it doesn't affect me directly, and even if I didn't feel guilty, I know that I wouldn't want anybody to have to go through those feelings of betrayal. Helping her cheat is producing less value to the world overall. Sure I'd be happy I got some, but I want to produce value and happiness into the world, not take it away. I value her and her bf's happiness over my own in that situation. I am not desperate enough for sex that I would let my sexual desires trump my moral beliefs. It's all about abundance mentality, there will be plenty of others to get a drink with.

By asking her out and then rejecting her, I got the satisfaction of knowing that she was interested in me, and I got to hold my moral beliefs. And guess what, after I rejected her she ended up thanking me for respecting her relationship. That does two things: makes me come off as more powerful for being the better man, and now she's probably re-evaluating how she's treating her own relationship, which is something she probably needs to do if she's considering cheating.

I'm not here to tell you what to do, I'm just giving you different perspectives to look from.

MarkTheWanderer · 2014-04-12T01:49:28+00:00

I don't do it, I'll be her friend by all means but I let her know through signs that that's all we'll be so long as she has a bf. I don't push for them to break up, I hate treading in that territory.

Also in my eyes if she cheats on him, she'd cheat on me. Unless he's beating her I don't bother and move on. Call me what you will but I don't put up with boyfriend drama, it's all bullshit.

Title	Girl that gave me huge iois, found out she has a bf. Should I still approach?
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Date	April 12, 2014 12:14 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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