2nd date lasts 3.5 hours, can't make girl laugh

HappyBull · 2014-07-11T07:46:03+00:00

Hmm... The laugh you're talking about is the comfort between the two of you which to me seems a bit low from what you've said. If you DO go out again try and be more approachable and friendly.

To me there are two versions of people: formal and informal. Formal would be he personality you convey to someone you just met, a teacher, boss, or interviewer. Sure you'll laugh at things but only to break the tension because formal settings are so stressful and uptight. On the other hand the informal personality is what you convey with your friends and family. You don't care what you say and you're you. You feel loose and relaxed with your hair down.

These dates especially a second or third should feel more loosey goosey to where what you say about yourself or comments to your date is what YOU think. Not what you think she'll like as a reply. So build comfort! There are exceptions where you just don't match with someone else and this may be the case! But keep it up and keep it loose.

Tyanuh · 2014-07-11T10:53:41+00:00

Main question, before asking if you displayed enough value and stuff... Did you actually have fun?!

Axelyager · 2014-07-11T03:46:12+00:00

I would say it depends on how you felt the date went. You just might be in an awkward state where neither of you are comfortable enough to laugh around each other. However, if it continues or you feel uneasy, I would drop it and find somebody else.

impenx4 · 2014-07-11T04:35:40+00:00

Laughs aren't everything, just one part. I would go for 1 more date, try and escalate to at least a K close and if that doesn't go well, end it.

ThrowawayPUA · 2014-07-11T04:20:16+00:00

You're not trying to get laughs, you're trying to get laid. If you're on a second date, she's probably wondering why you are talking for 3.5 hours instead of shutting up and kissing her.

raimondi1337 · 2014-07-11T14:23:52+00:00

Maybe both of you aren't fun at parties and you're a great match.

JBiebers · 2014-07-11T08:28:25+00:00

Laughs are overrated and generally more important on the first date to make her feel more at ease. If you're on the second date, that means she must feel some attraction for you. Perhaps you should try more kino and see how she reacts?

2014-07-11T14:10:24+00:00

You two probably just didnt click. Some girls arent fun so id move on unless you can get her to agree to a more intimate date... Say you cook dinner for her at your place...?

tjutachi · 2014-07-11T14:59:48+00:00

tell her a joke that makes her laugh at the beginning of the next date, then she will be more comfortable laughing for the rest of evening.

joshsway · 2014-07-11T15:06:52+00:00

In this 3.5hr date did you try to escalate? Get her back to your place? Anything?

puaCurveBall · 2014-07-11T17:28:29+00:00

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Matinator_ · 2014-07-11T13:39:27+00:00

Just invite her to your home the next time. Drink some wine or so, just to get her tipsy, download truth or dare from the apple store and be prepared to have some fun. Whoever rejects a truth / dare has to take a shot. Source: me

Title	2nd date lasts 3.5 hours, can't make girl laugh
Author	zenplus
Upvotes	24
Comments	13
Date	July 11, 2014 3:18 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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