How do I hold my position during a conversation with any girl?

Faimes · 2014-10-06T13:33:43+00:00

Imagine them having an orgasm, imagine how they look when they are orgasming, the happiness they would have on their face, what kind of noises they would have. Suddenly, you have no problem looking at them, smiling, and enjoying the time - it is quite fun! And since you are not trying to get anything from them, but merely having a good time (with the pictures in your head), you will automatically view them as having lesser value, compared to when you constantly think of "how do I do x, how do I make her like me" etc.

BritishBoyRZ · 2014-10-06T15:08:43+00:00

The major problem is you over-complicating what a conversation with a girl is. A conversation with a girl is a conversation. If you're a good conversationalist, then it shouldn't be affected by the fact she's a girl. Otherwise that means you're being intimidated. Then that would be your issue, not the fact you can't hold a conversation. If you're not great at conversations all round, then that's the issue you gotta work on.

The fact that she's a girl shouldn't make a difference. If it does, you've put her on a pedestal, and it will show. A conversation shouldn't be like an interview. It should flow with mutual interest. Not everything you say has to be a question, it can be an interesting statement, or anecdote, that will prompt her to want to know more.

What most men forget is that a conversation is a two-way street. It's not always your fault if the conversation is boring. Sometimes it just means that they are boring. That should be your queue that she's not worth it. Once you meet and talk to an interesting and personable woman, you'll notice the conversation comes naturally.

Gibly · 2014-10-06T17:07:29+00:00

Seddit, thanks for every answer, I already feel better :) let the answers coming, I really appreciate EVERYTHING as I'm new to this :p

transintraining · 2014-10-06T23:03:02+00:00

The issue you're having is that you are over valuing them because they have something that you want, and you think you have nothing they want.

Everyone wants sex, companionship, someone to make them laugh, smile. Everyone wants to feel something!

You have to figure out how to present something they want or stop needing what they have to offer so much.

SpaceTire · 2014-10-06T20:05:59+00:00

even though they are younger, they are on a higher level than you. The truth is girls mature mentally earlier and faster than boys. at 16, they are basically at a level equal to a 20-21 year old boy. yeah yeah, this obviously isn't the case with all girls but any who aren't complete dipshits this probably applies.

Just keep working on it, keep talking to them and build confidence. Soon you'll realize they aren't worth the pedestal you have put them on and you'll learn to relax around them and talk more confidently.

If you keep this up, by time you are 25-26 you will have zero problems talking to girls and you will be in a great point in your life to date many girls. Just don't go getting any pregnant before you are 30.

salexius · 2014-10-07T11:12:01+00:00

Suppressive fire, don't let her outflank you

TheJaguar77 · 2014-10-06T15:52:37+00:00

Whenever I talk to girls, I have fun with the conversation. I don't try to be factual or serious. Look for ways to playfully misread what they say. Remember girls are emotional. As others have mentioned, good idea to talk to everyone the same way then you talk to cute girls you will just be your best self. It can be easier to practice conversational skills with not-hot girls and your new skills will become apparent with talking to anyone - hot or not.

If the convo turns serious and I disagree, I don't lie about how I feel about something, but I often say things like, 'I can see how you feel that way' then explain my position in a very friendly, simple, short way - and I let that discussion die and find something we both like to chat about - observational conversations are usually the best for natural game/convo - but don't try to force convo or it comes off as try hard.

watch3 · 2014-10-06T14:34:44+00:00

simple... take their shoes and stand in that.. think it is their turn to be blushing.. and you never mind.

Title	How do I hold my position during a conversation with any girl?
Author	Gibly
Upvotes	25
Comments	22
Date	October 6, 2014 12:37 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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