Unexpected bonus from this sub

ON_3 · 2015-01-21T20:52:47+00:00

I am slowly finding this too. It may be that it's because I'm turning 25 this year, or just growing to be a better person.

Tonight I am challenging myself to approach 3 girls today that I would normally write off, and just see how the conversation feels. Getting out of that comfort zone!

dodged_that_one · 2015-01-21T22:03:29+00:00

I think for outsiders and new joiners they think it's just tricks to add notches to a bed post as you crush beautiful women's hearts as you move from one to the next. There are bound to be a few psychopaths who do something like this, but very few.

Personally I've found it's about finding something about a girl which makes me fall in love with them just a little. I try and find this in all of the women I meet no matter their attractiveness or availability. I think them seeing that spark reflected to them is what makes them want to be around me (as well as the lessons we all must learn here).

I guess my magical phrase is

"I wonder what I can love about her."

TheSicilianDude · 2015-01-22T02:35:12+00:00

This is what I call a healthy and effective attitude toward girls. Easy to get caught up in "she probably has a boyfriend," "she would probably reject me," and "she's kinda hot, I guess." Keep yourself curious.

Thanks for sharing.

winterberg · 2015-01-21T21:14:22+00:00

Amen brother

a4thpipeforsherlock · 2015-01-22T04:55:01+00:00

Since I started getting out and doing more social activities in the past year, especially swing dancing, I've started to notice how much more attractive women (and people, in general) are beyond their social media profiles. As someone who lives in a small town and was starting to see my childhood friendships dissolve or morph into something different, I gravitated to social media to find other like-minded people during my late-high school years up until earlier last year. Many people don't put much time/thought/effort into their social media pages, I've found, and the people who seemed like they were pretty dull or plain on Facebook are often some of the more dynamic and fun people to be around. There's nothing quite like having a conversation viz-a-viz with a three dimensional person, especially an engaging, attractive woman!

nicholt · 2015-01-22T18:47:55+00:00

For my whole life I have been insanely selective with girls. I have this picture in my head of what the "girl for me" is. Her body type, hair color, social status etc. I've now come to realize I was just psyching myself out in a way. I never approached anyone cause I always thought "I wouldn't like her".

Not that I have much experience, but the last girl I was with didn't fit my description at all. She was a country girl who wasn't as skinny as I would prefer. I still connected with her on some level even though she wasn't "perfect".

Great post.

blacwidonsfw · 2015-01-22T03:19:10+00:00

I feel like I'm the opposite. I don't care about what she's like because I know what she's like.

Title	Unexpected bonus from this sub
Author	Trash_Count
Upvotes	18
Comments	15
Date	January 21, 2015 8:30 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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