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[–]puamua 9 points10 points11 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Want to come see my etchings?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3-son3EJTrU
[–]HadToAnswer_2 points 11 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
A very nice video.
Personally I think there's a little something else going on as well. I think that women (at least in the culture I'm familiar with) value "magic" in a relationship. In other words, to plan on sex is cheap and crass, but when it happens spontaneously that's deep and magical. They would prefer to at least maintain the illusion that it wasn't orchestrated.
[–]puamua 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think we're like that too to an extent. I met a girl once after sending her a dtf? message online. She said but I don't know you, I said so what and then she asked where. It was a very quick exchange and while she was on her way I was thinking this doesn't feel right. I still got off but it was far from the best sex of my life. On my side, I prefer to go with the assumption that we're probably going to fuck, but I assume that because I know I'm going to put in the effort to make it happen. If she gives in with no effort it makes it seem less worthwhile.
[–]brandau 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
more feedback would helpful as I just lost my excuse too (had to put my dog down :()
[–]Pentaquark1 9 points10 points11 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"I've got some häagen dasz ice cream in my freezer"
[–]MetalPUA 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
"Would you like to have a drink at my place?"
I always have a bottle of red wine and a bottle of white wine at my place just for this purpose. I also like to keep a bottle of Fireball just in case she's a more wild party girl and wants to do shots. Most women don't like shooting straight whiskey, vodka, or tequila (unless it's a dressed shot with salt and lime). But Fireball is sweet-tasting enough that many women don't mind shooting it. You can also use Jagermeister, just make sure you keep it ice cold because room temperature Jager tastes gross.
Or, if I know the girl's favorite cocktail, I'll make sure ahead of time to have all the ingredients at my place just in case we end up back there.
[–]LarryLove 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
if I know the girl's favorite cocktail, I'll make sure ahead of time to have all the ingredients at my place just in case we end up back there.
Niiice
[–]HadToAnswer_1 point 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I also like to be ready to make the favorite drink of anyone who I want to see at my place more.
But as it happens, I myself don't drink (or I hope I would have thought of this one).
[–]Lead ModeratorThrowawayPUA 7 points8 points9 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Use the same pretext to get her there. "Darn it, the projector is broken. It worked this afternoon. Oh well, let's have a drink."
[–]whysoseriousgtr 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This right here.
[–]alpha_berchermuesli 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
smh
[–]joshsway 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
https://www.joshsway.com/articles/view/6-tricks-to-get-her-back-to-your-place
[–]lofiharvest 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You could also watch a film on a laptop. I did this once and it works well because the smaller screen encourages the two of you to move close. You could say 'Hey lets go back to my place and spin some vinyl' or 'I have a great bottle of... we should try some of it'. Another option is to play some board games or look at some photography books, etc. If shes a gamer girl you could invite her to play xBox.The sky is really the limit. If shes into you really won't need much of a carrot to draw her in. Haha in England the brits will say 'You fancy coming in for a coffee or tea?' Excuses excuses...
[–]sjhand2 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Just "find out" it broke down when she's already there, pour some glasses, done.
[–]mountnemo 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
During the date I start up a convo about board games. For me, scattergories is my favourite and I've found that most intelligent babes like it too (but any game that you have and get excited about playing can work). As the date/connection warms up I invite them back to my place to play scattergories. It works.
[–]Shrimpola_Cola 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Smoking weed
[–]itsforhismum 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My nigga
[–]itsmevichet -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Women like to have an innocent excuse to go to your place.
I can tell you experimentally, no, they don't. Unless you're dating fundamentalist Christians or other people who think it's wrong to have sex.
I have never, ever, in my years doing this, ever met a cool girl who was worth spending time with, that needed "an excuse" to go to my place.
Now, you can be cute or whatever, and if you're like me, you take the opportunity to be clever or funny. "I have some laundry I'd like you to do" or something equally asshole-ish. That works for me because by the time I've invited a girl to my place, 95 percent of the time she's already made a decision about whether to have sex with me. Also, because I've established early on that I make stupid jokes like that all the time.
"Let's go to my place" is my go to excuse. She says yes or no. Either way, I know where she stands after that. After she's there, it's all escalation and consent and clear intentions and such.
If you're trying to hide your intentions, you're just making the whole thing HER responsibility to escalate. That's a big no-no. A girl will escalate if she wants to, but if you dump that responsibility on her, she's much less likely to.
[–]HadToAnswer_6 points 11 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
by the time I've invited a girl to my place, 95 percent of the time she's already made a decision
This is pretty much universally true, but misses the point.
If you're trying to hide your intentions, you're just making the whole thing HER responsibility to escalate.
If you think an "excuse" actually hides your intentions you underestimate women. Like I said, they like having an excuse (a generalization of course, but generally true).
[–]itsmevichet -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Like I said, they like having an excuse (a generalization of course, but generally true)
I said myself I like being clever. But, again, no excuse really needed. Say whatever, just make the invitation. I never really think about it.
If you think an "excuse" actually hides your intentions
I don't think it hides your intentions that well, and women pick up on that. What they assume, if you're not being confident and clever, is that you're not confident enough to invite them outright. That's what I'm trying to get people to avoid.
[–]KawnN -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
lets go watch film at my theatre, while turning it on oh snap wtf happened to my projector.....
[–]gexxx007 -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Let's go back to my place because I rather fuck you at my place than yours.
[–]throwingorgy -5 points-4 points-3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How about not having an excuse? It should be clear to both of you that you want sex. "Want to continue this at my place?" should be all you need.
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