Saving Face After Rejection

WilliamThomson · 2015-03-29T01:25:30+00:00

If the girl walks away during our interaction, I just yell out something crazy like "You're breaking my heart!" Or "We were meant to be!" Laugh it off then approach another.

charcoales · 2015-03-29T06:23:19+00:00

Saving face doesn't matter since once a girl displays overt rejection, it is time to move on. "Getting the last laugh" by having some witty retort to rejection is a sign of insecurity since you are attempting to defend a fragile ego. A congruent man is unfazed by even the harshest rejections because their self love is invulnerable to remarks by women.

joshsway · 2015-03-29T00:56:19+00:00

Does it really matter about saving face?

midnightyeti · 2015-03-28T23:51:53+00:00

The easy answer is to say "Ok cool" and then to walk away. But there are a lot of situations where rejection isn't all that clear cut and you are actually better off trying to hang in there and see if she is testing you.

DaygameCoach · 2015-03-29T01:37:38+00:00

Learn how to run solid attraction and they will walk away less, and if they do...and you throw more attraction at them, they may stay in. Read the sidebar. Or choose a pickup or seduction method that works for you.

The problem here is framing this as rejection. If you don't frame it that way there is no need to save face. There are millions of women out there...so they are doing you a favor if they are not appropriate for you for whatever reason. That gives you more time to find appropriate women. A "no" or a "yes" is a good thing, while a maybe wastes your time.

Cuisine, Daygamer.net

rmbarnes · 2015-03-29T12:21:29+00:00

Only the players that put themselves on the line repeatedly get blatantly rejected. It's the ones who don't even try that don't. Therefore there's no shame in it.

I still remember one time when I was in a club. There were a group of female friends dancing in a club. One of them was by far the hottest girl in the club, probably a 9. She was dancing in a very sexualised manner, and getting a lot of male attention. I'd go so far as to say almost every guy in that part of the club was looking at her. Looking at her but doing nothing, bare maybe trying to get eye contact with her. I stopped and watched her for a moment, then watched the dozen or so guys watching her. Fuck this I thought. There's no way I'm not hitting on that girl.

Now given the situation, rejection was almost inevitable. People may say thinking that way is weak inner game on my part, but I'm just being realistic. She's very attractive, and going to reject most men, most of the time. In addition to this, with all the passive male attention she's getting, she feels like she's at the warm end of the pool, and doesn't want to give that up. But... but... there's a small chance that if I approach she'll be interested. The one guy who approaches while all others just stare is certainly intriguing to a girl. A small chance of fucking her with no consequences if it doesn't work out? I'll take those odds.

So I push past all the guys and make my approach. I can't remember what I said or what I did, but that doesn't really matter. I just know I went direct on her. I get rejected quickly, but politely.

I walk away, through the circle of men, my head held high. A few of them snigger at my failed attempt. But then theres this one guy who's watched the whole thing. There's something about him that has a player vibe. He looks eyes with me. There's a solemn look of respect on his face and he just gently nods at me one time. There was a brief moment there where there was a "brotherhood of players" feeling between us. With a single look he told me, well done. You and I know we have to go through that to get to the good stuff, and we're amongst the few that are willing to do it.

frozenGrizzly · 2015-03-29T04:20:31+00:00

I've seen guys say stuff like "I like your shoes though" (while they're walking away) or "But my mom loves me!", or some shit like that.

That sounds cringe-worthy, and to be honest, comes off as them trying to make it seem as if the rejection doesn't hurt as much as it does. It almost sounds like when you were in middle school and someone got into a fight with one of their friends and was like, "well I don't need you anyway, I've got lots of friends!" When you say that, it's pretty much understood that the opposite is actually true.

If it truly didn't bother you, what would you do?

Do that.

cephalord · 2015-03-29T10:26:55+00:00

Your central premise is that it is somehow shameful to be rejected. It is not. It is ok to be sexually attracted to someone and it is ok for someone else to not return the feeling.

lacksfish · 2015-03-29T06:19:03+00:00

Its her loss as much as it is yours. Girl who don't brush you off are the ones to spend your thought cycles on. (IT joke, sorry)

ickolas · 2015-03-30T21:50:29+00:00

My usual response is my true feeling: Damn! Can't blame a guy for trying, though!

overk4ll · 2015-03-29T12:21:59+00:00

I think it's unnecessary. OTOH, if in a specific situation you think it would be funny or emotionally appropriate to blurt something out, go for it. Don't overthink it.

Title	Saving Face After Rejection
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Upvotes	15
Comments	13
Date	March 28, 2015 10:08 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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