How do you make clear that you don't want a serious relationship when you meet new girls?

JDawgSabronas · 2015-06-19T16:39:19+00:00

"I'm not looking for a relationship."

NoGnomeShit · 2015-06-19T15:46:15+00:00

This is a problem I run into often as well. I've tried flat out saying I'm not interested in a relationship and/or I'm only interested in sex. But in my experience most girls will agree to anything and hope to change your mind with sex

RPSigmaStigma · 2015-06-19T13:03:18+00:00

Don't go on dates with them. Seduce them to sex as early as possible. Don't do anything with them that you wouldn't do with a bro (other than sex, of course). Ie, you wouldn't take your bro out to a nice dinner, but you might go with them to a party or a bar.

buddboy · 2015-06-19T16:17:40+00:00

What about asking them what they are looking for in men or in a relationship to bring up the topic? Also you can be honest with out being hurtful. For example I met if you met the right special girl you were crazy about you would be willing to settle down. So you could say, "I am not looking for anything serious but I'd be willing to be serious if I met the right girl." That way you give her an honest nice answer, and yes some hope but not necessarily false hope, you definetely aren't lying. The problem is a lot of girls may ask, "am I the right girl?" Then you have to think of a smarter response, one time I said "it takes me much longer to decide, I haven't known you long enough." Seemed to work fine, didn't hurt her feelings. You could probably think of a smarter answer, maybe something like "you're in the running for it, but my other girls are trying harder." That answer is good because you make it obvious you aren't that serious if you are seeing other girls

mizhornz · 2015-06-20T03:07:44+00:00

Seriously, be straight up. Before you even touch a chick, be like "hey, so i dont want anything serious" say it a few times if you must. You will likely still run into a few girls who dont understand... but thats just chicks man. We a crazy bunch. Good luck!

ihateusernames12345 · 2015-06-19T21:35:18+00:00

why cant you just be honest and just be upfront. your looking for someone to have fun with. you dont want to have them sleep over and go on dates. just be clear on what you want if they run away then its probably a good thing. too be honest i have just wanted to just hook up with a guy and they feel like they HAVE to care and be all intimate after haha

External12 · 2015-06-19T17:59:08+00:00

You don't unless asked. Just don't do boyfriend things like buy them stuff or setting up dates. Wanna hang out somewhere?, that's fine too. If they assume it's something more, that's there fault/problem, you have no obligation. If they don't like it, makes no difference because you aren't gonna talk to them anyways for long term. Girls have done this to me too.

Voittaa · 2015-06-19T18:37:30+00:00

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treefrog24 · 2015-06-20T01:07:53+00:00

When meeting someone new always say. "Hi my name is ___, I'm not trying to date you".

recyclablebantha · 2015-06-20T03:54:02+00:00

this is a problem I find myself confronted with pretty often lately.

And what does this problem look like, actually? You've actually said nothing about this. Like what is the problem, and how does it progress, and when?

BitingInsects · 2015-06-20T04:23:58+00:00

You can say it but they won't really get it if they don't want to. If she's already imagined you guys together, she won't register anything else. Then you have to worry about her expecting a relationship if you still have sex.

FriedLizard · 2015-06-20T05:30:14+00:00

You just don't. This is not something you talk about the first time you're hanging out with a girl. However, f it comes up or she asks, be honest.

mojo_magnifico · 2015-06-20T07:17:38+00:00

Being more flirty in all interactions and focusing on emotional sub-communication as opposed to actually getting to know her "story" and life resume.

Subtle hints that you get a lot of girls and are unattached to the outcome with her. Hint the fact that she's a mere rookie in your roster. Act interested in her and tell her you like her (this should be genuine, why else are you are pursuing?), to give her hope, but balance with plenty of challenge and push. My favorite line to randomly drop in when first getting to know a girl is "I hate when girls try to control my life." They will pick up on the vibe.

Many shit tests will follow this behavior, ie. 'Are you a player?' 'I'm not just a hook-up' which can be easily handled with some agree and amplify.

2015-06-19T16:03:18+00:00

I just don't talk about it and when they ask, i tell her that I don't think about that sort of things

DaygameCoach · 2015-06-19T13:51:40+00:00

You tell them you aren't looking for anything serious...before you sleep with them. I talk about serious vs casual and screening for them here: http://www.daygamer.net/2012/07/06/how-to-get-the-right-girlguy-communication-skills-101/

ALFMiles · 2015-06-19T14:07:58+00:00

Before sex you say; "I'm not looking for a serious relationship".

Astrocytic · 2015-06-19T16:43:03+00:00

Tell them you just broke up with your ex, or some other excuse, and complain about relationships in general.

Title	How do you make clear that you don't want a serious relationship when you meet new girls?
Author	seducedbycookies
Upvotes	94
Comments	65
Date	June 19, 2015 12:06 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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