Need Advice: Dealing with your Alpha friends when going out

evolutionape · 2015-11-22T02:12:31+00:00

It's always good to surround yourself with people who are better than you...not just in PU, but in your work, hobbies, life as well.

Be willing to learn instead of worrying about them as your competition. Watch, listen, and learn from them. This will only make you better and push you beyond your comfort zone.

cascadecombo · 2015-11-22T00:42:36+00:00

Get better

ThePurpleGodzilla · 2015-11-22T04:11:27+00:00

When I go out with my "alpha" friends who are better than me at certain things like that, I feel that I actually feed off their energy and do better

GLOOTS_OF_PEACE · 2015-11-22T06:07:36+00:00

Have you heard the idea that "you are the average of your 5 closet friends"? Hang with your 'alpha' homiee more often, their behavior will rub off on you. Change your attitude from lose-win to win-win.

WhiskeySeven · 2015-11-22T12:04:42+00:00

I have a friend who has to be the centre of attention every time. I'm a confident, outspoken guy (probably have done this AMOG thing to my own friends unwillingly) but this other guy, Matt, he's literally a comedian and a narcissist. It's impossible sometimes to go out with him.

What I did is step back and crack jokes, not mean ones but funny ones, at him toward a girl I liked and then divert their attention away into a 1-on-1.

Basically you either have to be as loud and direct as they are, which isn't so hard if they're really your friends and respect you, or you have to break off and do your own thing as soon as you've made contact.

The end point is this however: have a good time. They're your buddies, have fun with them.

Drrads · 2015-11-22T04:14:38+00:00

Every time I hear someone use the word "set", I cringe a little bit. Don't think about it like you are performing a task, girls can pick up on that. If you are confident and actually having fun, you are eventually gonna get laid.

pacg · 2015-11-22T02:44:33+00:00

I don't like being in what amounts to an alpha male feeding frenzy. Reminds me of a family friend who had a massive koi pond. When it was feeding time, there'd be two dozen hungry koi splashing around in competition for handfuls of brine. It was a spectacle. Socially, I find such displays vulgar and unrefined. But sometimes you have to manage the situation, the setting, the milieu into which you're thrust.

If I were in your situation, I'd step back a little, stake a claim in the seating area, and focus on the few women who really catch my attention. Otherwise it'd be too confusing and overwhelming to sit there among the frenzied alphas.

Rootbeer_Guy09 · 2015-11-22T12:20:30+00:00

Whats happening is that these alpha guys are taking more action than you and always put you in "spectator mode" You just have to be quicker than they are, thats all it is.

AGallopingMonkey · 2015-11-22T00:43:01+00:00

If you can't beat them, join them.

rustoof · 2015-11-22T02:17:54+00:00

split up

Evilpagan · 2015-11-22T03:35:25+00:00

So having energy is a skill now?

Need Advice: Dealing with your Alpha friends when going out

-- TL;DR: My confidence is affected depending on the skill level of my friends - how to deal with the more skilled/alpha friends without feeling out of state when they are killing it in the set.

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Title	Need Advice: Dealing with your Alpha friends when going out
Author	thestrategictaco
Upvotes	29
Comments	36
Date	November 22, 2015 12:14 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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