Ex has new bf, now I have social anxiety and game is in downward spiral HELP!

NotAnotherTroll · 2016-02-12T21:24:34+00:00

Block her on every level and move on, brother. I know it hurts but she moved on and you have to as well. She isn't with you any more for a reason. You don't need that shit and you deserve better.

Keep busy, stay active, eat right. Prep your meals and don't eat shit food. Your stomach is key to a healthy lifestyle. Healthy stomach healthy body healthy mind healthy life. Hit the gym or do something active. Surround yourself with friends and positive people.

Don't let depression take hold and own you. We got faith in you, man. Take it one small step at a time.

that-freakin-guy · 2016-02-12T22:37:59+00:00

Force yourself to approach.

My logic is I think of myself as the best catch for my girlfriend. If I left or she left me, my life would not suffer. I'd be sad in the beginning, but I know for a fact that a bunch of girls in my school would kill to be with me and that increases my confidence. Abundance mentality. I obviously don't plan to act out, but that THOUGHT is what motivates me to improve. That thought of being the ideal choice for ANY woman makes you work harder to be the best, and when you're working to be the best you in turn end up being the best.

Start going out, be super confident, ask out girls, work on yourself, and just be better. You will be better. And stop worrying about your ex's, they're your ex's for a reason.

kptknuckles · 2016-02-12T23:50:22+00:00

This was me a year ago after an eight year relationship ended in her moving across the country.

It's gonna suck for a while, especially the most helpful part, no contact.

Your brain is literally addicted to her, oxytocin is a bitch and you get a hit every time you peek at her Instagram or Facebook or whatever. Cut your brain off and get used to making your own memories, and pursuing your own interests.

enkae7317 · 2016-02-13T01:58:59+00:00

Bro. Why you still checking on your ex? She's an ex for a reason. You gotta learn to focus on yourself. Stop focusing on other people.

chicagomusicscne · 2016-02-13T06:01:19+00:00

This happened to me 3 years ago and it got pretty bad. I still get a slight cringing pain in my stomach when I think about the time I awkwardly ran into her and the dude she's now married to by my college's intramural fields.

Stop looking at all of her social media. Stop driving by her house. Stop reading old texts over and over again. Those were the mistakes I made. Get medical help.

And make sure you're going out, getting exercise, and trying new things. Abundance mentality is an incredible cure.

jefffffffff · 2016-02-12T20:44:32+00:00

You need to approach more during the day and at night. Simple solution dude

iamcoco79 · 2016-02-12T21:14:52+00:00

It sounds like you, my friend are suffering from what is colloquially known in the pickup community as having a bad case of 'oneitis'. I agree with Jeffffffff. Just approach more, but more importantly, REALIZE that this girl that you are obsessing over is just a regular human being like you are. Having her is not going to COMPLETE you and make you HAPPY. That's just a story you are telling yourself and believing. But don't beat yourself up, we've all been there before. Just get out and meet other ladies. It's amazing how having OTHER women in your life will bring clarity to a situation. Good luck.

BudTrip · 2016-02-14T00:33:53+00:00

Remove her from your mental hard drive, assure yourself that it's time for the next chapter in your life. Other than that, do you and let it take it's time.

palmerd21 · 2016-02-13T04:59:51+00:00

You always had anxiety and your game was nonexistent. Understand that you suck and had no prospects. Now use this to motivate yourself to improve and get social skills and learn game and pick up beautiful women. Stop sitting around crying and get to the gym.

HarveySpecter12 · 2016-02-15T12:03:13+00:00

This isnt seduction

AfterSwished · 2016-02-13T01:39:02+00:00

Now [...] have massive social anxiety

.. Your ex moving on triggered your social anxiety?

Title	Ex has new bf, now I have social anxiety and game is in downward spiral HELP!
Author	accountrel
Upvotes	3
Comments	19
Date	February 12, 2016 8:29 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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