How to deal with rejection from a girl you put in effort to...

Turlast · 2016-08-04T07:48:17+00:00

Honestly, the bus girl wasn't that much different than the other girls that rejected you. You might've put a bit more time into her, but in the end, she was still a stranger. It's much worse when you actually take time to get to know the girl and end up getting nowhere.

Rejections happen to everyone. Some sting more than others, but you gotta keep pushing. If you allow your frustration to consume you, there's a great chance you'll become less motivated to push yourself. Forget about the shitty nights and just work towards creating awesome nights.

recyclablebanthas · 2016-08-04T12:28:08+00:00

So I went out tonight with my friend and we got rejected by a lot of girls, and that's fine,

Is it really? Or do you feel a bite each time?

I understand that it's a part of the learning curve, but towards the end of the night there was this chick sitting down by herself at the bus stop

How was this girl any different from the others?

Also, you're leaving out how you approached these girls. What exactly you were saying and doing.

and I sat there and I tried to chat her up and use kino, but she kept looking for an excuse to go have a smoke, and I left frustrated.

What were you doing really? Here it comes off like you just tried to follow some set of steps without any regard for the state of the girl.

Of course she was looking to get away. You kept trying to touch her and got invasive when it was either too early or she wasn't interested.

How do I keep myself from feeling so angry at being rejected when I go home and have all this time to myself between me and my own thoughts and demons?

Start off with a mindset change. It sounds like you're repeating poor techniques and going out with your friends won't fix that.

In fact sometimes going out with friends is terrible because some people will just push you to go try a specific girl who might not be ideal...... Just because.

TheXXL · 2016-08-04T07:57:22+00:00

How do I keep myself from feeling so angry at being rejected when I go home and have all this time to myself between my and my own thoughts and demons?

First you have to identify what it is that makes you feel this way, i'll give you a hint: Ego. Subconsciously you feel rejected based on your personality, which is always insulting. A part of it is also some kind of entitlement, like "i have been so nice to her, so she has to be giving what i want".

How can you get past it? Practice, stop getting validation from the outside which calms your ego, and fight the feeling of entitlement, just because you touch and talk to a girl it doesn't mean she has to do anything. Lastly, with enough practice you know much earlier if it's worth a shot or just a waste of time.

Umbrifer · 2016-08-04T14:14:06+00:00

There are no magic bullets. I wish there were, but there aren't. You need to deal with your anger and frustration constructively. It's that simple. If all you have to dwell on is your lack of progress with Pickup then these women are right to reject you. Do you have a goal in life? If so, tally your results, analyse your performance, and use the negative feelings to spur you on in the gym, or studies, or whatever, sure in the knowledge that your mastery of your craft and persistence will get results. If you don't have a goal in life get one, and see above.

It's going to hurt, it should hurt, but once you learn not to fear the pain, you'll be free of it. And this is true in all areas of life.

Overnight_Delivery · 2016-08-04T14:15:17+00:00

where all were you approaching girls? approaching a girl at a bus stop shouldn't have much expectation to work out, you shouldn't think of it much.

DeathtanzMantisk · 2016-08-04T16:17:30+00:00

First of all make sure you're sctually gaming SMART and not HARD. I see alot of my friends make this mistake and play the numbers game when spproaching "maybe" type of girls.

Title	How to deal with rejection from a girl you put in effort to...
Author	BubbleShip
Upvotes	5
Comments	17
Date	August 4, 2016 7:29 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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