6th night out, feeling like I got the life sucked right out of me..

chenleh · 2016-08-13T05:34:45+00:00

Some advice?

Take some time off and take care of yourself. Sounds like you're putting way too much stock on the outcome of what's happening. Get to a place where you can see a bigger picture. Yeah, it was a bad week for you, but you'll get over it.

Also, before you go out next time, get really clear about what you're actually looking for. Too many guys just go out and have a blanket "Yes, I'll take whatever." No. Get really specific, down to the exact way you want to meet and talk to the girl, what color her hair is, how she's going to laugh, etc, etc. After that, go out and start by NOT talking to any girls and just watching until you find a hint of the quality you were looking for from above. Then go for that. The trick is to completely let go of the outcome before you even begin.

Aeon199 · 2016-08-13T08:01:24+00:00

Recently a girl called me a fuck boy and that I was a waste of sperm.

I felt fucking terrible.

She truly was a shallow person and was not a good influence.

Fuck people like that.

Some group is feeling insecure on how you're getting better game?

Fuck them.

Girls not really interested?

Fuck them.

You suffer from a symptom called night game burnout.

Try some daygame. Women are friendly and bored. Most of mine come from day.

recyclablebanthas · 2016-08-13T08:53:45+00:00

So last week I went out for 5 nights (not in a row), and opened with a few girls in clubs and bars, and got rejected multiple times, and thought that I was OK with that.

You ought to work harder to be in tune with what you're feeling. Such feelings should be worked through. Not ignored and allowed to bite you in the ass.

I was unable to even say hi anymore while sober to a random girl at the club/bar.

You do realize that "seduction" is basically being social, at it's core. So you're developing core aspects of it no matter who you're talking to. Guys, girls, old people. Doesn't matter.

Don't ignore the low hanging fruit.

Also, there were odd groups or girls by themselves that laughed or tried to put me down on the nights that I went out last week. That is what hurt me the most I think.

What was happening when they laughed at you?

How were you opening them or trying to open them? What exactly were you saying and doing?

agilius · 2016-08-13T17:08:32+00:00

Seeing each approach as yet another number/step in your journey helps. You'll have to accept that each one is just another attempt, in a series of hundreds, maybe thousands.

How about starting a little notebook, and give each girl a number. Write down the interaction, frame it in a funny way but be accurate. Take a look back every week or two and you'll see how you slowly improve, and become more and more detached. :)

Good luck!

JeffTek · 2016-08-15T17:02:53+00:00

I have the same problem, I feel like I lose my frame quickly and get boring or whatever if I'm not shitfaced. I have a history with drug problems though, but I'm sure that those problems were brought on by the same mindset. It's hard

WayneDaniels · 2016-08-13T13:21:42+00:00

Stop going to clubs. You can approach. Great. That's half the battle! Now use it in everyday life. The gym, grocery store, dog park, etc. Are they actually places you enjoy going to or feel comfortable in? Do things that you like doing and you'll meet women who enjoy the same things and start from there. It's not all about the game sometimes. Little secret, cardio kickboxing and yoga.

aswjacob · 2016-08-14T01:39:04+00:00

You aren't failing fast enough. Stick with the process. You need to approach 20 women for every time you go out. You care about rejection because you haven't been rejected enough.

Approach 50 women per week. Also read my article.

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/4seyc9/never_run_out_of_things_to_say_to_womenkeep_the/

Title	6th night out, feeling like I got the life sucked right out of me..
Author	BubbleShip
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Date	August 13, 2016 5:11 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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