2 and a half years ago I was struggling. I was a virgin, and I was making some progress with my game, but I was still insecure as fuck.

(Seriously, you can check my history. I've been on r/seduction for years).

Today I just had to turn down an FWB asking for a booty call over the phone. I'm also distracted from gaming because of 2 girls who are texting me. One is overseas and is DTF whenever we're in the same country, the other is a childhood friend who I've had 2 flings with, and we have a thing.

And those are the girls who I'm not actively pursuing.

And all this happened while I'm living with my mum while trying to grow my freelance career.

Yup. Progress can happen my friends. Progress can happen.

And one thing I've learned is that while a girl can show some interest and attraction, nothing happens, absolutely nothing happens unless I make a move.

It's up to me, and me alone.

Don't get me wrong, it takes 2 to dance, and for anything to happen the girl has to play her part, but all the times it ended up in the bedroom and more, it was when:

  • Her friend leaves to go and pick up alcohol and I move forward to kiss her.

  • We're talking in the uber after she just invited me to a rave, and I kiss her mid conversation.

  • I take her upstairs and say we need to talk, and then I kiss her on her forehead and next thing we're making out.

And on and on.

The amount of times I've had success when I didn't make a move? None.

In order to have some success you have to be willing to escalate and make a move. And yes, you have to be willing to get rejected and to handle the awkwardness afterwards.

I can't count the number of times I've made an awkward opening with a girl and it didn't work out. Or I move in for a kiss, and she's like "noooo" or a phase I went through where every girl I talked to told me they were gay. (Seriously. It was a weird 4 weeks).

But you won't know if anything can happen unless you make a move.

You have to be willing to hold that eye contact when a girl checks you out.

You have to be willing to kino & escalate (but not in a creepy way. Yeah. You know exactly what I'm talking about).

You have to be willing to go in for the kiss when the moment comes up. Here's a rule of thumb, if you suddenly feel like now would be a perfect moment to go in for a kiss, then there have been 5 such opportunities already. There is no perfect moment. Just do it.

Because guess what? It's a dance. Once you've made a move, she'll make her move back, you'll find out sometimes that you're not the one escalating, she is.

Making a move is like a key. It's a key that gives her permission to show her desire for you.

So stop living timidly. Start making a move.