Did you start to attract more beautiful women as you got better at this?

norwegiandoggo · 2024-03-15T07:00:51+00:00

Yes, it does get better over time if you do the right things. Just improving your looks further are not the "right things" you should be doing.

You seem to go off of the concept of "attract women" as your first step to seducing women.

This is not how most guys get hot women. You don't sit around and wait until your looks magically attract women like you have a magnet in your pants. Maybe that works for average women but why would it work for hot women unless you're a celebrity?

You have to actively seek out hot women. You have to actively seduce them. You don't attract them. They attract you based on their looks, and then you seduce them. You choose who you seduce. You make the first moves. Heck, you make almost all the moves from start to finish.

If you ended up with average looking women in bed it's because you didn't take part in choosing a hotter woman. You just took whatever was given to you. Meaning, the women did the choosing. You have to do more of the choosing, so you can choose hotter women.

Your issue mainly seems to come from this mindset of being the passive attractor, rather than the active seducer.

You also should recognize that being an attractive man has to do with a lot more than looks. Being good at seducing / social skills in dating is in itself extremely attractive. I'm not just saying that. Married women listed "socially exciting" as the 4th most attractive quality they valued in their husbands. Source . So your social skills within a dating and relationship context are extremely important.

OinkOink97 · 2024-03-15T04:48:22+00:00

You have to let it be known that you don’t need them. (Obv by just the way you carry yourself) Cary yourself with abundance and confidence and they’ll be in your FOV waiting for you to go for it.

Now if you’re serious about dating you can still apply this to your own desire. But def in that case go places that you likely see a spectrum of beautiful women (target, book store, etc) and look clean and smell good. Good luck

Ps I wasn’t reading all that but I hoped it helps

Chicagoj1563 · 2024-03-15T10:10:49+00:00

Getting attractive women is about playing the numbers game and developing social skills. 99% of guys aren’t doing that. I can write up perspectives on this, but it’s really that simple.

Learn from guys who are experienced and have walked the same path. Take action, invest in yourself. It’s not about anything else or any pre ordained fantasies.

Most people aren’t leveling up, they aren’t taking a lot of action, they aren’t improving themselves. So, no need to compare yourself to them, unless you also don’t want to put much effort in. Be in the 1% not the 99%.

atomant88 · 2024-03-15T10:25:36+00:00

yes, but the women you attract will be negligible compared to the women you approach. do not wait for them to approach you, go make the approach yourself. and as you get better your success rate with all women will improve.

Khower · 2024-03-15T17:13:14+00:00

Generally if your life is going in the correct direction as a man you will be more attractive in time.

At 29 Im drastically more attractive to women than at 19 despite being worse looking in many ways.

Competence, resources, maturity, tact all work in your favor.

At 19 I was desperate to find a girlfriend at 28 I didnt even have to do anything, her friends did all the leg work of setting us up for me

yeahyeahitsmeshhh · 2024-03-15T06:22:09+00:00

Countless examples abound of stunning women with mid-looking dudes. We can debate why, I believe it's because of other qualities, chiefly personality but the existence of such couples should be sufficient to dispel the fixation you have on the idea of there being a fixed level of attractiveness each of us can possibly end up with.

If you are carrying this thought it is likely impacting how you act, whether you recognise it or not.

videogames_ · 2024-03-15T11:14:28+00:00

Are you willing to be extroverted and a party animal to go to nightclubs that the hottest women like to go to? Meeting the hottest women means meeting them at their places they are around a lot.

TwoBasedFourYou · 2024-03-15T09:56:28+00:00

Very well worded post OP, and it covers a lot of the questions I've been having myself, but never cared enough to post.

vzuwow · 2024-03-15T04:48:11+00:00

STOP TREATING WOMEN AS TROPHIES !!!!!

nintendoborn1 · 2024-03-15T14:23:41+00:00

This is pretty much how I am currently with your statistics and I wanna improve my skills on getting them easier

omicron01 · 2024-03-16T02:20:22+00:00

For myself, I have to say, that I didn't got better after each one i've met over years (including dating, friendships and sex), but i definitly do know now what I am searching for, even if I thought "meeh I want such and so woman).

The hurting part is that after this experience you get somehow in a special mentally place. I am somehow fixed to my own principles as a man about romantic things, emotions, gestures, small talk, and so on. And if a woman don't met the criteria I am looking for, it gets very hard to find a person who wants to love you back as much as I do them over the time.

With my younger ages, I was more trying to be friended first and wait for the long shot, mostly 1-2 years. But now, I kindly show them the right gestures and moves, that indicates what I want. I even stop at the right time now when I notice ok the timing is gone or she isn't communicating back/showing back interest. It is not by default simping if you are trying it slowly but it definitly rips you apart if you create dreams in your head for longer shots.

When I was 19, I almost fell in love with every woman I saw, which had normal looks and physic. But over time you do have boundaries to specific groups of woman.

I also respect every individual woman that I do meet in my life, wether it is short or further. As long as the person is somehow healthy and not super over weight or to much skinny, I accept it. Not because I want to have a larger chance, its because I am more interested in other peoples life and their life stories, achievements, goals, dreams and stance with behaviour towards other humans.

Somehow I found out that smiling and surprising kind gestures (doing more hustling next to them, showing sympathy, and smiling in their face). Not that much chatty but more a listening guy and throwing of some of the things you somehow heard or think to know).

Sadly I am a softy because I am more of an romantic and emotional guy when it comes to behavioural things, but woman want more serious looking, very strict men. I am only masculine in principles, respect and kindness.

You will notice over time that, after you have money, responsibility for family and friends, chores and hobbies, that you get the more attractive looking people. You even will get set up by friends group because they value your personallity , they know you more and they "grant you a wish" and help you to find one, if you have a female friend. (but mostly this also backfired alot because the "female friend" is always secretly crushing on you.

RangersFan243 · 2024-07-04T02:46:26+00:00

Am I cooked at 5’9

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-03-15T10:57:51+00:00

I'm 6'5 and athletic I'm also moderately handsome. I've never had to chase women period some of them women were average some really hot. I've never really cared about that.

I learned PUA because I was shy. Girls would be around me talk to me invite me to parties etc. From being shy I developed a technique in ignoring girls every day and it really works. If you don't stare at girls they will look at you.

I didn't really spend too much time because my sticking point was easy resolved.

At the time I thought they were being nice. By default I got into relationships easily.

I'm older now and I really have gotten into image. I don't wear amazing high fashion but clothes that make me look good. I check myself on a full length mirror before I go out.

I also changed my walk and I smile a lot less. I notice girls can see that too. I'm a natural leader. Confidence is everything.

As of late I have girls work approached me who were really attractive and they were very nervous which surprised me. One was a Swede 5'9 blonde model. She was very nervous and really sweet truthfully.

Title	Did you start to attract more beautiful women as you got better at this?
Author	Mother-Ad-9552
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Date	March 15, 2024 4:27 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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