How to KEEP FWB?

YSLMangoManiac · 2024-02-09T06:21:34+00:00

Look at some point in a FWB situation it is very likely someone gets attached it’s as simple as that

norwegiandoggo · 2024-02-09T07:15:56+00:00

I don't think you did anything wrong. FWBs never last. You know that going in. The fact that you both managed to keep this up for 6 months is already a huge accomplishment.

In the future if you want to keep a more open situation for longer, you probably need to convert it to an open relationship that's more involved. Living together etc. It's a personal decision whether either of you cares about this age gap. Large age gap relationships can absolutely work, but they tend to last shorter - so they come with added risk for a break-up.

Sudden-Conference-65 · 2024-02-09T08:29:31+00:00

Maybe she got bored. They can get sex anywhere

OWSucks · 2024-02-09T14:02:31+00:00

Almost all girls who are cool with FWB eventually want something more.

You need to be prepared that they're going to cycle in and out of your life.

Never stop dating.

SkyluxTM · 2024-02-09T10:31:22+00:00

Bro she is a careerwoman in her mid thirties fucking some 23 year old kid for 6 months. Shit gets kinda weird after a while. At some point she has to get her romantic priorities straight.

ReindeerFun3762 · 2024-02-09T06:20:37+00:00

You pretty much give up the idea of friendship when you pursue them romantically, sexually, etc. You'll have dozens of opportunities to be their friends, and they will typically friend zone you by default unless you express you want more, in which case it usually starts something or you go your separate ways. Being their friend but being unable to be with them physically is difficult too. Perhaps the age gap is why it could never be more than fwb

Psiborg0099 · 2024-02-09T09:09:52+00:00

Do good fux

EsotericOcean · 2024-02-09T11:28:33+00:00

Bro 6 months for a FWB situation is a damn decent run. Pat yourself on the back for keeping the thing going.

Next time learn to compartmentalize your feelings. Sounds cold but it's necessary, especially since you don't seem into the whole monogamy thing at this point. Will help with decision making on your end and make things much more manageable overall. Just don't turn into a baby psychopath out here.

Get better at sex. Not saying or assuming you're bad (gotta be at least decent to keep her around for 6 months). But great sex from both genders can actually be hard to come by. Even if you are good get better. Women have an EXTREMELY hard time letting go of good dick. They'll go out of their way and bend over backwards if you've got it. So keep improving.

Last but most importantly your self image should never be attached to anyone other than yourself. Work on your inner game and mastery. You don't need her or a situation with anyone else to validate who you are or your worth as a person. Dont give others that type of power over you. This will come with time...hopefully but I would seriously start working on this immediately. Because really little all else matters in life. Once you're able to reconcile with yourself, which can be very difficult, you start to play life on easy mode.

You're young at 23 you've got this. Concentrate your effort onto the changes you want to see and before long you'll be asking why there was even a doubt in the first place.

Tldr: Don't catch feels. Up the sex game even if you're already good. Make sure to seek validation from within yourself and not external sources.

VrilHunter · 2024-02-09T12:35:48+00:00

FWB always come with an expiry date. That is the day when one of them shows signs of romantic interest. Which is bound to happen almost always.

Far_Cheetah7006 · 2024-02-09T13:39:37+00:00

Bro thought his fwb was gunna last for life

letsgetwizzyy · 2024-02-09T15:40:35+00:00

Well, the worst thing you can do it desperately text/call her and try to keep her in the rotation. This will demonstrate that you have no other options and that you can't get sex/ aren't having sex with others girls, which will turn her off.

I would suggest acting like it's not a big deal and just being understanding, if she wants to come back for sex she will.

I know getting over stuff like this is tough, but if you did it once you should not have any trouble doing it again. I would suggest talking to other women, hooking up with them, and arranging a FWB situation with your behavior (don't go asking for fwb)

The reason you missed her, like you said, is because she provided you with something you needed, validation that you are desired / attractive (which is basically what you said because you considered yourself to be an unattractive goblin)

So, you need to enhance your inner game/ internal sense of worth and internalize that you are attractive and desirable. You most likely miss the feelings she provided you with as opposed to her specifically. You can get sex/ fwb from anyone, but you will always desire her because of the emotional impact she mad eon you. So, unless you internalize that you are not an ugly goblin who is desirable, you will always desire the feelings she provided you with.

As long as you keep leveling up, you will attract more women.

This article discusses how to get over women: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/why-men-should-date-multiple-women?r=31tj3q&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

This article discusses how to level up and attract women who are equally as attractive or better: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/how-to-attract-high-quality-women?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web

Kagenikakushiteru · 2024-02-09T11:02:48+00:00

Dude move on

saulisdating · 2024-02-09T11:48:10+00:00

The relationship has run its course, accept that.

You did reveal in your post that you started having feelings for her as more than just a FWB. This has changed all of your sub-conscious communications and you started vibing with her differently. She definitely noticed this and it's probably why she cut things off - because she was sensing that you want to make things deeper - which wasn't part of the FWB arrangement.

You didn't leave it as casual as it was intended from the start, is my point.

F49Cougar · 2024-02-09T15:23:39+00:00

Please explain to me why you can’t date someone 10 years older? I get that you don’t like relationships, I’m not asking about that. I want to understand why ten years & an established career is a barrier? My boyfriend is 22 & I’m 50 with a very successful career. AGR just makes a great relationship hotter imo.

Impulsive666 · 2024-02-09T11:57:18+00:00

Plates break. It’s a law of nature. They might feel romantically towards someone and her sex drive (with you) just goes poof. Or she just wakes up one day and decides to move on, or that there is something in the current arrangement that doesn’t scratch her itch. It’s not even a conscious decision. We are different after all.

The point is, it doesn’t matter. Plates break. So make sure you keep spinning up new plates.

ChicoBrillo · 2024-02-09T12:39:04+00:00

If you have to ask..

CrimsonBlackRonin · 2024-02-09T13:59:17+00:00

Dude lol…unless you want to string her along like a puppet, just let it go, some things run their course. She either caught feelings or can’t do it anymore

Minute_Abroad_8105 · 2024-02-09T15:39:30+00:00

Ok then fwb get your ass over here so i can take some frustration out but you went and made the impression that you wanted more im sorry but if you did that then yes it made me lose interest

BraveOcelot1824 · 2024-02-10T02:47:51+00:00

talk to her

Title	How to KEEP FWB?
Author	TurboBanned
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Date	February 9, 2024 5:51 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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