After a short exploration of the incels site on reddit and interacting with the posters there, one common type of thinking seems to dominate -- A sheer hatred of women. The Pickup community also seems to be tainted somewhat by this hatred as well. Can you really be a pickup artist if you actually despise women? If you have been trying and failing to talk and interact with them, perhaps it is this dangerous attitude that has been quietly fermenting inside of you that women are some sort of enemy and they're just "bitches and sluts" for you to use. After many years dating women I've had good experiences, bad ones, and outright terrible ones, but one thing is universal, they're just like us. We as men are not always at our best sometimes, we can be great, other times we can be cruel but the thing that keeps us going is that we shrug off negativity and move on. Incels have refused to do that. So when you bemoan dry spells or lack of success in the field, don't get that hard shell around you, lest it get too thick and you end up refusing to let a woman in altogether.