I have no fucking clue how to show interest

lifeson106 · 2017-09-16T17:52:22+00:00

Look up HOT APE:

Humor - make jokes, pick on her in a funny way, whisper something gossipy in her ear about someone you see

Open body language - align your body so your feet and hips are facing her, don't cross your arms or hold a drink in front of you, keep your arms and legs open

Touch - touch her, read her body language to see if she's comfortable with the touch and if she is, escalate to something more sexual. Start with a friendly touch on the shoulder, move to lower back, massage her neck a little, run your fingers up her neck and into her hair, kiss her, feel her legs. If at any point, she's uncomfortable, immediately stop and back track to a touch she is comfortable with.

Attention - When she's talking to you, practice active listening. Don't just wait for your turn to talk, thinking of what to say next, actually listen to what she's saying and show empathy by thinking how you would feel in whatever situation she's talking about. Respond thoughtfully, keeping the focus on her, not yourself.

Proximity - If you just met this girl, this does not mean you should be following her around, quite the opposite, actually. Make sure she sees you being social, taking to other guys and HOT APE other girls. This is huge for building attraction. Proximity means you should do these things with people near her so she can see and maybe hear you and then make your way back to her when it feels right.

Eye contact - relentless, unfaltering eye contact. You should never be the one who breaks eye contact and even when she does, you keep looking at her eyes so when she looks back at yours, she'll see you are still fully focused and locked in on her.

Telling a woman you just met you want to fuck them can totally work, by the way, you just can't be creepy about it. Especially with older women, they don't like fucking around, being totally honest can pay dividends.

EDIT - Credit to Jean Smith. Watch her TED Talk

alonzoftw · 2017-09-17T06:50:09+00:00

Banter. Tease her. Know your limits with this. Do it once in a while until you can properly gauge a woman's emotions.

Holding eye contact and smiling at her will be way more than enough to show intent. Learn how to show your 'Happiness Smile.' Anything less she will pick up and know you're forcing it and it just wont feel authentic.

Be real in conversation. For example if you fucked up and ran out of things to say, tell her: 'Shit, I ran out of things to say.' Try and follow a genuine mistake or goof up with something witty like: 'I should have watched more youtube videos on things to say.' Say it with a smile. It may seem counter-intuitive but women love it when you are honest. They will know that you are less likely to bullshit them and are completely genuine.

In general, just approaching a woman and saying "Hi." shows that you are interested. Women aren't stupid, they know, and sometimes they will even HELP you out to get there.

GET_IN_THE_VAN · 2017-09-16T21:33:33+00:00

listen, smile and show good eye contact. Ask her questions about herself. The best way to show interest is to BE interested in her.

jedipaul9 · 2017-09-16T17:23:51+00:00

Physical touch, sexual innuendo, and attempts to isolate you an her. Women generally understand that when you do those 3 things that you are trying to fuck them. Failure to do any or all increases the probability that she'll assume your gay. Someone women have actually been bold enough to ask me if I'm gay to my face cause my kino was weak and I never tried to take her to my car or find a room.

ben1324 · 2017-09-17T11:38:33+00:00

All in the eyes and smile. Slight smile, no teeth exposed, like a smirk, and eyes a little squinted. With eye contact. That's basically my "I want to fuck you" look

2017-09-17T06:42:38+00:00

Stand in front of girl, make eye contact, start talking.

mcr00sterdota · 2017-09-17T09:29:12+00:00

Tell her she's attractive. Don't be needy, make it sound somewhat casual.

NilacTheGrim · 2017-09-17T04:35:12+00:00

Flirt and compliments and shit like that. It helps a lot if you're hot, though.

2017-09-17T14:27:40+00:00

Show interest through kino escalation. She'll get the hint.

Title	I have no fucking clue how to show interest
Author	fuckitidunno
Upvotes	273
Comments	31
Date	September 16, 2017 4:40 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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