is it ok to be weird?

ImJustSo · 2017-11-15T18:03:57+00:00

Women find guys attractive that are comfortable in their own skin, regardless of the man's traits.

I think pretty much every girl I end up with or have become intimate enough that they'll tell me what they think about me have all said, "You are totally ridiculous".

I'm pretty weird on paper, pretty balanced in person, but I'm silly as fuck. Sometimes I'm walking a fine line between cocky and confident. The shit I say is off the wall, usually. So....I get called ridiculous. And they're always laughing when they say it.

Tl;dr Yes

domable19 · 2017-11-15T18:57:41+00:00

How the fuck can you help who you are. They say be yourself but that's a fucking lie. I'm tired of people labeling someone before "attempting" to understand them. There is someone for everyone, evidently the one you are pursuing is extremely superficial. I guess you guys are just not compatible, boo fucking hoo. As long as you are improving, working out, making money, bettering yourself in anyway you will find someone. "Millions" of fish in the sea, she does not deserve you buddy. But bet when she sees you with someone else that realizes what she lost....

Lambdal7 · 2017-11-15T19:43:17+00:00

Yes, you can be weird and be liked for it, but only if you already have status.

If you're doing cold approach, being weird will not help you at all.

However, weirdness is appreciated for masculine traits sometimes:

Not listening to authority
Being very direct
Being very adamant about ones own opinions

However, you need excellent social skills to pull those off.

All in all, being weird will instantly turn off 90% of girls and the remaining 10% dont care if you're weird because they like you for other things, but only if you're actually not that weird.

However, being weird by itself only creates some attraction for the abce mentioned traits or if you have high status and that only if you are very charming, so it's not really something you should build your attraction foundation on.

digitalbitch2 · 2017-11-15T23:23:10+00:00

Most women will not like you if you are weird. The ones that do will like you ALOT. If you do something, own it. Who gives a fuck about those who don't.

shakespeareSMG · 2017-11-15T23:33:06+00:00

1) go out in public

2) look around

3) digest

I can already tell you the results. For every type of guy there is a girl who like her style whether it be gamer geek or muscular biker.

The challenge: find those types of women

Hint: If you are a gamer geek it’s easy—play games.

herooffline · 2017-11-15T18:12:28+00:00

Short answer is yes but lot of factors are at play here. Body Language, Setting, Appearance, etc.. All depends. But what I do have to say is I would call my best friend a sorta weird/awkward guy and he does pretty well at getting girls every time we go out.

The reason with my intro is he does his best at the club dancing with girls (awkward dancer too :P) having fun and not giving fuck. So by the time him and the girl talk after the club it's easier for them to keep talking with him for awhile even if what he says might come out a bit weird.

If you're doing cold approach I imagine you might have a few more rejections but everybody's a little weird so as long as you own it and make the girl feel comfortable you should be fine.

(I'm a newbie at this whole pickup thing so take what I say with a grain of salt)

DirkDieGurke · 2017-11-15T18:28:15+00:00

I'll go out on a limb and say weird is definitely not good. Weird is different than funny, clever, or humorous. I've known a few weird guys in my life, and girls steer clear of them. And often, they're the guys that get bullied. I hate to say it, but there's a reason they get bullied... they're weird and stick out like a sore thumb. Girls don't want to be associated with that. In simple terms, they want a guy that they can show off.

If you are following the principles of self-improvement in this sub, you are probably not this type of weird. You're just "eccentric" I guess. And that will still work, but you've put yourself in a niche market, and that's why many of the girls you meet don't get you.

Title	is it ok to be weird?
Author	I_Main_TwistedFate
Upvotes	2
Comments	18
Date	November 15, 2017 5:41 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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