A really nice thing happened to me, I figured I'd share it with you guys, and the lessons I learnt.

So, a week or so ago, I went to my cousin's engagement party, where there was a mix of friends and family, and I when I got there I honestly instantly taken aback by how many girls there were, and how beautiful they all looked. They were so dressed up, I was almost speechless. I did not expect this at all. I don't go to many parties, if you can tell.

I walked around and did the usual routine of saying hi to everyone I knew, giving hugs and handshakes. And then I got really bored. I didn't really want to talk anymore to any of my family, it just doesn't really stimulate or interest me, I know that sounds harsh, but it's true. I didn't have the nerve to just approach his fiance's gorgeous friends, so I just walked around aimlessly then slumped into a chair and started reading on my phone, waiting for time to pass me by.

I thought about I could approach them. His fiance went to the same university I'm applying to, so they probably went there too. I could ask them about that, and I could actually get some really useful information too.

I walked past them to get food three times before I approached them. I was so awkward in my initial approach. They were so friendly when I said hi, but I myself was scared. To be honest, it is nerve-wrecking for me, approaching a group of gorgeous 20 something girls. If it was just one, it'd be so much easier, but a whole group? And they would all be talking amongst each other, I'd be interrupting whatever conversation they would be having.

They were friendly and open when I said hi, but in my insecurity I felt I had to justify why I was talking to them. It's very insecure, I know.

"Hello!"

They all turn and look at me, a little taken aback. I wonder what they're thinking. They're probably wondering what I'm thinking. In sychronicity they say:

"Hi!"

"You guys are X's friends, right? Did you got to university with her? I was thinking about going to X University."

(It's like I was questioning them on the university rather than actually wanting to get to know them. As if I was trying to 'extract' information from them. I think it was just a way 'in' for me. And if worst comes to worst I would get something useful out of it.)

This really friendly girl at the front (you can just see it in her face and it's just lovely) beams at me:

"Oh I didn't go there, I went to X University, but she did." And points at the girl at the back.

Then the girl at the back (call her Anna), who's easily the most gorgeous, tells me that she went there and loved it, and told me all about the university. I asked her what she studied and she told me Theology. I was super curious as to why, and we talked about this so much. It turns out she's an athiest who studies theology, how curious! She asked me what I wanted to study, and I told her all about my passion in life, and it turns she knows someone who did the exact same thing. We branched away from the group within a few minutes, and ended up talking for hours about philosophy, never separating from each other for the entire party. Even during all the photos and cake cutting we were glued to each other and kind of forgot about the party altogether. It was honestly one of the best experiences of my life to feel that connected to someone. I was so, so, happy. I can't fucking wait to go to university

Some things I learnt:

-Don't judge girls solely on their looks. They're so much more than that. I did that with Anna. She was so beautiful I kind of initially only saw as her looks, I completely objectified her.

-Girls really do want you to suceed. Well some of them at least. From talking to them all initially, and throughout, they were so warm and open and could tell I was a bit awkward, but they actually HELPED me through it. Seriously. They actually helped me. All that fear isn't really for much if everyone was that nice.