How Do You Spend Less Time Thinking About Women Between Dates? Why Do You Think I Spend So Much Time Thinking About Her/Them?

Lambdal7 · 2018-01-14T16:17:53+00:00

Because you don't have abundance. If you had approached 500 women over the last few months, you'd be texting with 10-20 different hotties and would be happy if you'd have time for yourself and not getting texts from them all the time. Be proactive. :)

MrLestat · 2018-01-14T18:26:45+00:00

The best answer I can give you: you're not present.

You may have seen The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle mentioned in this sub and by some PUA groups. The reason it's regarded so highly is because it revolves around meditation - the art of being present.

Being present is a skill that lets you control the flow of your thoughts. It requires being aware of your mind and when it loses itself to its thoughts.

It's no surprise that your mind is trying to picture the girl you're dating because it's a Satisfaction boost to your ego. However it's not focusing on where you are and what you're doing in the moment. It's also losing your life goals and the steps you're taking now to reach them.

A common technique to get you started with meditating or being present is try to catch yourself whenever you're thinking about a girl. Accept that you did, and focus instead on something in the moment: your breathing.

Having other activities, hobbies, etc to keep busy - like other people posted here - also helps bringing your focus to one thing away from the girl. You can still apply the concept above while you do this: if your mind wanders, recognise it, let the thought fade and resume your task.

slushez · 2018-01-14T15:30:58+00:00

I do the same thing sometimes. I think the biggest thing is to have hobbies/ active life. Also make sure your exercising and what not.

erect_sean · 2018-01-15T02:45:30+00:00

From what I understand you seem excited because you actually went on a date with this girls you really like and you're putting all of your hopes into this one girl. I guess its alright to be excited just dont create any expectations based on this one date. Also you need to find other activities which you are truly passionate about, remember your life does not revolve around her so be careful making her the center of your life.

ImJustSo · 2018-01-14T16:11:12+00:00

I honestly think it's where my motivation lies, otherwise I completely forget about them.

Insertopinionhere · 2018-01-14T17:34:24+00:00

You gotta ask yourself those questions. Dig deeper.

Maybe you think they’re the key to your happiness. Maybe you’re afraid of being rejected. Maybe you draw your self esteem from these dates/crushes.

Sometimes it’s best to sit down and really ask yourself those questions and think long and hard about those answers.

Everybody is different so your obsession might be for different reasons.

CharlesDarwin59 · 2018-01-14T17:40:33+00:00

Get a hobby man. Maybe it helps that I'm married and only do "seduction" as part of an open marriage but shit lol

Half the time I'm annoyed by how often I'm expected to respond to text messages.

rmbarnes · 2018-01-16T08:40:21+00:00

Have more women on the go.

Have another purpose in your life which occupies your thoughts.

Title	How Do You Spend Less Time Thinking About Women Between Dates? Why Do You Think I Spend So Much Time Thinking About Her/Them?
Author	GarudaRising
Upvotes	13
Comments	11
Date	January 14, 2018 1:54 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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