I know what my issue is, how do I keep a conversation flowing if the girl isn’t really telling me anything?

ATitanRises · 2018-01-21T19:32:31+00:00

Keep talking..I'm serious talk about complete bullshit. Ran into this problem at a shisha bar in Europe about a week ago. Friend was chatting up a girl in a group of three and I figured I'd jump in for shits and giggles. Attempted to remain cool and perform the ritualistic small talk until I hit the same speed bump. I silently sat there for a moment(awkwardly) and thought to myself, "Ok what to say next..Maybe I should say this or this or maybe that". You could say in that moment I realized that my mind was racing. So instead of pumping the brake I let the mf run wild. Took a lesson from my old improve days and decided to say the first thing on my mind. Which for some odd reason happened to be gummy bears. So in a loud confident voice I said, "I hope you know gummy bears basically rule the world". She and her friend laugh asking why I thought that. My reply, "Cause they are awesome". Went on to ask whats your favorite candy blah blah. Noticed a painting on the wall that had pyramids on it which reminded me of a YouTube vid I had recently watched about the mysteries of the number 9. To paint a clear picture I by no means smoothly transitioned into this topic..I just brought it up and discussed how "mystical" it was. Conversation shifted to Scooby Doo and then Sherlock Holmes...THE POINT IS

1 get out of your head(It really doesn't matter what you say..A girl told me her name and I said it sounds sour and reminded me of a pickle.. she ate it up. The more you try to structure conversation the worse it gets...If you feel like talking about something sexual mid convo just bring it up )

2 never answer a question seriously(within reason though.. remember the goal..Have fun and maybe fuck the girl depending on if you dig her and she digs you)

3 use improve to your advantage (if it comes to mind say it in a WAY THAT SEEMS FUNNY TO YOU) <----hint hint

4 take a breather (Allow the other person to contribute...All you basically gotta do is stand there and hold confident eye contact for a bit and look away shorty, mainly because staring is creepy so examine something off in the distance, then resume eye contact )

circlhat · 2018-01-21T19:35:30+00:00

I doubt conversations are you're issues, women don't need a deep emotional connection, in fact some women have nothing there. Are you having conversations to have sex with them, or because you enjoy talking, if you're like me and trying to get laid, you need to know how to steer the conversation in that direction

gillieboy123 · 2018-01-21T22:03:13+00:00

To be honest if a girl is that boring/dumb that she's incapable of contributing to a conversation she's not worth your time...

At least that's what I think, but I prefer a witty average looking girl over a dumb hottie any day.

LingeringGnome · 2018-01-22T00:44:05+00:00

Use the room to sexualize right away. Be "charmingly honest" (the more attractive a woman is who is used to nice guy ass kissers, the more effective this is). If a waitress walks past you and the girl you apporached, and you think to yourself, "damn, she's cute and has nice tits", SAY that to the girl you're talking to.

I'm not joking. Just say what's on your mind. It is so refreshing for socially valuable women, because it shows you don't fear them.

It is this fun transparency that tells a woman you aren't a a creeper hiding his intentions with nice guy bullshit.

You: Hey, she's kind of cute. Real tits or not?

Right away you'e being HONEST, sexualizing the conversation, remaining playful, and including a woman in a fun game. This is the opposite of the Youtube pickup artists who repel women with their incessant chattiness.

You don't need to talk a lot. You get your ass to the gym, and build some muscle. Let that do some of the talking for you (and I'm not saying body builders can't be chodes...because they can, and most are. but this is about a balanced approached).

Learn to use your surroundings to include women in fun, playful banter. Avoid monologues about your life. Ask questions. Let the women do 70-80% of the talking.

You can be shocking (playfully). You can be brash and to the point. But you can never be boring.

15flows · 2018-01-22T12:02:05+00:00

why not actually leave and seek a woman to who you have a connection with?

i mean, if a girl you couldnt care less about kept trying to talk to you, is there realistically speaking anything she could say that you suddenly make you interested in her?

iHasABaseball · 2018-01-21T23:52:55+00:00

Go talk to other ones. They're not attracted. Physical attraction is about all that matters at bars for the most part. It's a place to meet superficial people.

Title	I know what my issue is, how do I keep a conversation flowing if the girl isn’t really telling me anything?
Author	jewfro667
Upvotes	9
Comments	15
Date	January 21, 2018 6:07 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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