Is there any way to get past "let's just be friends?"

2018-02-26T21:04:44+00:00

Get with more women, stop thinking about her and putting her on a pedestal, keep flirting with her and other women. That's really it. Easier said than done but you have to do this.

LingeringGnome · 2018-02-26T21:17:10+00:00

If you had sex with her before the "let's be friends", yes, it is possible to reverse it.

If there's no sexual history, it's over for good.

Dadoma · 2018-02-26T21:04:53+00:00

You answered your own question. Unless she is super valuable as a friend cut contact.

iXbrian · 2018-02-26T21:42:19+00:00

I've been friend zoned once in my life because I was a little bitch who didn't know how to escalate properly.

never do anything for a women, make them want to do things for you.

BestSC86 · 2018-02-26T22:53:55+00:00

No, it is over.

And basically she is just "telling" to let it go...anything you do from here will be a nuisance to her.....particularly as

"I really like her....."

which means that anything you try will come across as trying to manipulate her into like you again. You don't have the skills at this point to pull off doing anything which will not be seen as try-hard.

Move on.....I seriously doubt that unless you had been previous mates before dating that she actually want ANY CONTACT AT ALL FROM YOU going forward.

zfgee · 2018-02-27T00:50:19+00:00

Sounds like you fucked up and didn't escalate soon enough and she lost interest.
Never say "OK" if she gives you the "lets just be friends" spiel. Tell her straight up you are only interested in her romantically. Make it clear.
Then stop contacting her, leave the ball in her court and move on.
She probably won't reach out again. But if she does, you will know she wants you to ask her on a date because you made it clear you do NOT want to "just be friends".

anantapdas · 2018-02-26T22:58:17+00:00

Happened to me once. Made a talk, ended us to cut off contact. Very hard at first, but gets better in no time.

Answermehomies · 2018-02-26T23:08:37+00:00

Let me give you some hope. Met a girl, we hit it off. She came on super strong. Pretty much begged for sex. I was too much of a pussy to fuck her. She lost interest. Told me ljbf. I became a super needy bitch. I blew her phone up, begged for another chance, poured my heart out, sent huge lame texts, etc. Eventually she removed me on all social media and I gave up. That was December of 2016. Seen her on and off around town for the next few months. I was nice but kept my distance. Simple hi and bye.

Invited her out one night in october after over like 3 months of not talking. She came with her friends. She got really drunk and started being hella bitchy towards me. Told me to leave her alone. So I went and had a good night without her. Remained non reactive. She hit me up sometime in November and we were hangin’ and bangin’ up until like last month. She lost interest again.

If I can do it you can too. Something to keep in mind though: I really got my hooks in that girl the first time around. You need to make a strong connection if you ever expect to hear from her again. Another thing to remember is that relationships are never black and white like people on seddit and other pua communities make it seem. Women change their minds all the time. You just have to play your cards right.

Dating973 · 2018-02-27T01:51:30+00:00

Unfortunately this sounds like a losing proposition. Definitely a bit of oneitis you have going with this one. And the friendzone is the kiss of death. Need to give it to you straight here. She may haunt you for some time but you need to move on by meeting other women

TorDZeus · 2018-02-27T08:27:47+00:00

Let's just be friends means 1 of 3 things.

You don't have chemistry. Lack of banter. Your humor style and her humor style are different so your jokes aren't funny and the interaction is dull.
You aren't high value enough. She doesn't seem you as a potential mate.
You aren't her type. (catch all category for everything not in 1 or 2)

If you enjoy talking to her then keep her around as a friend. Good female friends are an asset.

Title	Is there any way to get past "let's just be friends?"
Author	Tige-rbalm
Upvotes	2
Comments	21
Date	February 26, 2018 9:02 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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